This could be long..
My husband's older sister share the same mom but not the same dad, since my husband's father had no custody or any rights to her, he did not have a say when she asked for Emancipation, my mother-in-law allowed it quickly and she left the state (alone) at 16, when she left my husband was 7 years old, she kept in touch only with my mother-in-law and not much of anyone else. The only time my husband has seen her since she left was in the birth of her children, at age 18, 21, 25 and 26. She lives in Norway but occasionally comes to visit for almost every holiday (St. Patrick's day, Valentines etc.) everything except my husband and my daughter's birthday. Her children don't speak English, so they pretty much can't talk to any of us. My daughter is very fond of her youngest, which is the same age she is, and always asks when she's coming back, etc. The sad thing is my sister-in-law seems like she tries to avoid us. Like she's not interested in anyone except my mother in law, her kids are the same way too, they don't even try to talk or play with anyone else, however when with her or my MIL they laugh and look really fun, so I have to think they just don't like the rest of us. By age 12-15 she's gone through a series of depression, BPD and OCD with two big phobias, plus has been home schooled for three years, pretty much isolated at home in her room. I'm not sure if any of this has anything to do with the fact she ignores us. I know it doesn't sound like a big deal, but I doubt she even knows my daughter's name (her niece). I gave birth to a baby boy 9 months ago, and sent her an invitation for both the baby shower and his birth, she didn't reply to neither.
We haven't really done anything but with all this we have to think she has something against us, how can we talk to her or let her know it's hurtful the way she tried to get passed us?
My husband's older sister share the same mom but not the same dad, since my husband's father had no custody or any rights to her, he did not have a say when she asked for Emancipation, my mother-in-law allowed it quickly and she left the state (alone) at 16, when she left my husband was 7 years old, she kept in touch only with my mother-in-law and not much of anyone else. The only time my husband has seen her since she left was in the birth of her children, at age 18, 21, 25 and 26. She lives in Norway but occasionally comes to visit for almost every holiday (St. Patrick's day, Valentines etc.) everything except my husband and my daughter's birthday. Her children don't speak English, so they pretty much can't talk to any of us. My daughter is very fond of her youngest, which is the same age she is, and always asks when she's coming back, etc. The sad thing is my sister-in-law seems like she tries to avoid us. Like she's not interested in anyone except my mother in law, her kids are the same way too, they don't even try to talk or play with anyone else, however when with her or my MIL they laugh and look really fun, so I have to think they just don't like the rest of us. By age 12-15 she's gone through a series of depression, BPD and OCD with two big phobias, plus has been home schooled for three years, pretty much isolated at home in her room. I'm not sure if any of this has anything to do with the fact she ignores us. I know it doesn't sound like a big deal, but I doubt she even knows my daughter's name (her niece). I gave birth to a baby boy 9 months ago, and sent her an invitation for both the baby shower and his birth, she didn't reply to neither.
We haven't really done anything but with all this we have to think she has something against us, how can we talk to her or let her know it's hurtful the way she tried to get passed us?