How can I tell me mom I'm having sex? Should I tell her?

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I just turned 15 about a month ago. Me and my boyfriend have been dating for 6 months but talking for a year. We have only had sex 3 times and he's ok with me not wanting to have sex but I want to. I know everything I need to know about sex so don't tell me I'm too young. We are soooo in love. But the problem is I'd feel better if my mom knew. I wanna get on birth control but idk if she'll let me. Pleaseeee help me. What should I say and when should I tell her?
 
Ask your mom to sit down with you one day/night and tell her. let her know that you are willing to trust her and you want her to know what is going on in your life- a lot of girls your age can't do that. Let her know that you want to get on Birth control and to avoid pregnancy- which is something you are definitely not ready for. You don't want to make this mistake. This might not be your true love- even though right now you think he is- but tell your mom that this is a person whom you care and want to be with him and you need her support. That doesn't mean she has to think you are doing the right thing, but you are doing right by telling her- that's very mature. Tell your mom that you don't only need her to be a mother but that you need her to be a friend and that any advice is welcomed.
 
Well, I just want to say that I personally believe 15 is too young for sex, but it is your life. I have WAY more to say on the subject, but I figure you have heard it all before.
On to your question. Pull her aside and tell her you need to have a serious talk about something. Tell her is it very important that she listens to everything you have to say before she says anything. Tell her you have researched and learned about sex and you want to talk with her about it. Tell her you would like to get on the pill because you and your boyfriend are sexually active and want to be safe. Tell her you have thought a lot about the consquences of your actions and you know what could happen in the future. Tell her you wanted her to know because you dont want to keep secrets from her. Just be honest and mature. Good Luck!
And DONT listen to Daionna Y, birth control can be very safe. You just need to talk with an OBGYN to decide which is right for you. Condoms should ALWAYS be worn because they protect from not only pregnancy but offer some protection from STIs and STDs. ;)
 
well first DONT TAKE BIRTH CONTROL because it messes up the bodi and just tell your mom u have something to tell her sit her down but make sure shes in a good mood so say iv been havin sex with a condom if u have used a condom
 
Well, I just want to say that I personally believe 15 is too young for sex, but it is your life. I have WAY more to say on the subject, but I figure you have heard it all before.
On to your question. Pull her aside and tell her you need to have a serious talk about something. Tell her is it very important that she listens to everything you have to say before she says anything. Tell her you have researched and learned about sex and you want to talk with her about it. Tell her you would like to get on the pill because you and your boyfriend are sexually active and want to be safe. Tell her you have thought a lot about the consquences of your actions and you know what could happen in the future. Tell her you wanted her to know because you dont want to keep secrets from her. Just be honest and mature. Good Luck!
And DONT listen to Daionna Y, birth control can be very safe. You just need to talk with an OBGYN to decide which is right for you. Condoms should ALWAYS be worn because they protect from not only pregnancy but offer some protection from STIs and STDs. ;)
 
I commend you on wanting to be honest with your mom about sex. You never know she just might surprize you, but dont trip if she doesnt understand because she is just being a mom. You really dont need permission to get on birth control sweetie, all you have to do is go to the health clinic, they cant give out your information, it the law. I would start by saying I need to talk to your about something important, and let her know that her opinion is very important to you. Theres not magical way to put it other than straight up, no chaser. Just prepare yourself that she might be upset about it, let her vent and when she calms down, the two of you might just get through it. Good luck.
 
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