Warz_Cannon
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My girlfriend and I have been dating for the past three years now, and during the last two we have been physically intimate. We've made plans to move in together and I was thinking of proposing to her in a few months.
Recently however, she informed me that she did not wish to be physically intimate anymore. She told me that it wasn't about me, but that she just didn't feel comfortable and wanted to take a break from sex. At first, it didn't bother me very much; but as days have passed, it has started bothering me more than I have thought. When I lay next to her in bed, I feel an intense, tacit, rejection. Frustration is building up in me, and I don't know what to do. I love her enormously, but I do not feel that I can remain in a sexless relationship without being tempted to stray. I have always been a firm believer in faithfulness and as a result, I would rather break up than compromise my morals.
I don't really know what to do. I love her tremendously, and I feel that leaving because of that would make it sound like I was into the relationship only for sex, which couldn't be further from the truth. I've never been a "playboy" and would never even consider having sex with someone I wasn't in love with. In fact, almost a year elapsed between when we started dating and when we made love the first time. However, I do feel that it is legitimate to have sexual desires towards the one woman I am in love with, and I do not feel like I have the strength to endure much more frustration. Frustration is consuming me and it's a slow, lingering feeling that makes me miserable; much more than I thought sex (or lack thereof) could impact me.
Any suggestion on what I should do?
Recently however, she informed me that she did not wish to be physically intimate anymore. She told me that it wasn't about me, but that she just didn't feel comfortable and wanted to take a break from sex. At first, it didn't bother me very much; but as days have passed, it has started bothering me more than I have thought. When I lay next to her in bed, I feel an intense, tacit, rejection. Frustration is building up in me, and I don't know what to do. I love her enormously, but I do not feel that I can remain in a sexless relationship without being tempted to stray. I have always been a firm believer in faithfulness and as a result, I would rather break up than compromise my morals.
I don't really know what to do. I love her tremendously, and I feel that leaving because of that would make it sound like I was into the relationship only for sex, which couldn't be further from the truth. I've never been a "playboy" and would never even consider having sex with someone I wasn't in love with. In fact, almost a year elapsed between when we started dating and when we made love the first time. However, I do feel that it is legitimate to have sexual desires towards the one woman I am in love with, and I do not feel like I have the strength to endure much more frustration. Frustration is consuming me and it's a slow, lingering feeling that makes me miserable; much more than I thought sex (or lack thereof) could impact me.
Any suggestion on what I should do?