How can I quit looking so young?

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Please don't come on here and say to enjoy it; it's hard when you're going for your Masters in Education and everybody thinks that you're a little kid and treats you as such. I'm currently taking a class on how to teach math and I'm one of the youngest in there, I'll be 19 on Friday. There's moms with kids and ladies that look about 50 in my class. Our teacher decided to make us a seating chart and I sit with people in their late 20s to late 30s early 40s and they treat me as if I'm really stupid, they make comments and everything else. I'm very petite 5'2" and 113 pounds so I'm skinny and short. I do not wear name brand crap, that got thrown out when I left high school, I wear make up but I do it modestly, I have an adult hair cut; it's to the middle of my back with layers starting at my jaw, and I do not use slang. How can I get them to treat me as an equal instead of as a little kid? My dad told me oh they're just jealous that you're young, smart, and beautiful and in the same class as them but I don't think so. Thanks.My dad said that, not me. I wouldn't be asking this question if I felt completely secure.Because me they treat awful that's why and my dad said that they're jealous of me because of those things. He was trying to explain why they treat me badly is because they're jealous. I'm asking if that's true and how can I quit looking so young.I'm going FOR my masters degree not getting it this year; I'll graduate with my Masters in 2013 because I'm a year ahead of scheudle. Wow people on here don't read correctly I guess this morning.Yes I'm still an undergrad.In my state all teachers are forced to have a Masters so yeah I'm going for my Masters I'm not getting it. I won't be able to start working until I have a Masters degree, period. The people on here are so rude; to call me a liar when I'm going for advice. Or the moms on here that say I'm concieted; um actually you're probably the ones that hate people like me.Well that's what I always say. So deal with it, sorry. But that's right, SAHMs hate working moms so no wonder I'm going to get slammed on here.First of all I wasn't asking to be coddled and half the people didn't answer my question. I never talk in class so your point about being catty was never relevant I stay VERY quiet. I post on here SAHMs because they are always slamming on people who want to better themselves; not all stay at home moms but a lot of them do. It isn't acting high school to say gee well why don't people treat me professionally. Oh and FYI; everybody in that class masters or not says I'm going for my masters. My parents say my daughter is going for her masters. So that's why I say I am going for my masters. The last person completely judged me; yahoo bitchy SAHM who can't answer a simple question, assumes she knows everything, and is stuck up. My dad doesn't coodle me; I asked and he responded with that. Oh and to the bitch who slammed teachers; go screw yourself you don't have an education I'm assuming, at least I'm doing something with my life than by watching soaps all day while my kids sleep.Oh and to Beaver Cleaver Ms. Undeducated Idiot; I do have friends actually a lot of them.
 
get a pencil to draw some fine lines at the edge of eyes... they make you look older...
 
Start smoking and drinking,that will age you in no time.I'm glad you asked this question to make yourself sound awesome though....*How is someone telling you that other people are jealous and how beautiful and smart you are relevant to how to look older? Trust me you aren't the only 18 year old trying to be a math teacher.*I know teachers are pretty bottom rung but to the smoking teacher of 10 years here is how smoking ages you according to the Mayo clinic:http://www.ask.com/bar?q=How+Does+Smoking+Effect+the+Skin&page=1&qsrc=6&zoom=%3CKW%3EHow+Does+Smoking+Effect%3C%2FKW%3E+Your+Lungs%7CThe+%3CKW%3EEffects%3C%2FKW%3E+of+Cigarettes+%3CKW%3ESmoking%3C%2FKW%3E%7C%3CKW%3EHow+Does+Smoking+Effect%3C%2FKW%3E+the+Body&ab=0&u=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.mayoclinic.com%2Fhealth%2Fsmoking%2FAN00644**Way to act mature, no wonder no one likes you.
 
I am 29 and look like I am in high school and I'm pregnant. I know exactly how you feel. There's not much you can do but let them get to know you and once they do they will realize how smart you are.
 
Well honey it sounds like you've done all you can do. You have an adult hair cut, you dress and talk like an adult, and you seem to be very mature. In all fairness honey, you are 18 in a class with older women so to them you are a child.
 
First of all, start acting mature. I am not assuming you are immature now, but if you act mature with them, they will treat you as one. What are your contributions in class like? If you show intellectual capability that matches theirs or if you are simply a better student, they will take notice and realize you do have something to say.Secondly, at 18 you cannot expect to have a lot in common with women in their 30s and 40s, nor should you want to. You may be a good student inside the classroom, but there is really very little common ground with these people once you are outside. They could be your moms.Thirdly, you are going for a masters from the age of 18, which is pretty impressive and shows you are capable of being intellectual and mature. However, at 18, don't try to grow up too soon and fit in with people you really do not need.
 
You are not getting a Masters if you are 18 turning 19. Why are you lying?Edit: OK, you don't make yourself clear. If you say I am going for my Master's - that means you..are...going..for..your..Master's.If you are an undergrad - you are going for your Bachelor's.
 
I hate to say it but your dad is kinda right! Think about it. If you were in your 30's and were trying to get your masters while raising a family and running a household and every time you go to class there is this young pretty girl in there (who in your view has a great life, less responsibilities, getting her education without kiddos) wouldn't you be jealous?You are doing what they are trying to do but its harder for them because of their other responsibilities. There really isn't anything you can do about it besides hope that once they get to know you the jealousy will go away. What grade are you planning on teaching? If its going to be junior high and up prepare to be in this kind of situation until you look quite a bit older than the kids you teach.Edit: Wow - hold on hun! Why are you ripping stay at home moms and generalizing that we hate working mom?. I am pregnant with my first and stay at home. I run a daycare so first off without working moms I wouldn't be making any income at all and second its my choice for being a stay at home mom. I chose that my kids will have a mother around and not be at school all day then daycare before coming home to eat and go to bed. These are things that my husband and I don't want for our children while they are young. Please don't generalize that one group hates the other because as I suspect it would be the working mothers who are giving you a hard time. (seeing how they are the ones needing the degree).
 
Lol. I had this same problem right out of law school. I had a client incredulously ask how his fate could be in the hands of a child. He wasn't asking that any more when I learned his case cold and won his appeal. Act mature and people will treat you that way -- even if you're cursed with looking younger than you are.
 
Dad could be right.You have came a long way to get your masters.Congratulations,If I was you I wouldn't talk to the other students.Do what you have to do to be successful.The others are jealous because for personal reasons they couldn't get the degree when they were your age.
 
I can sympathize. I worked in a junior high as a math teacher for a year after getting my degree. Imagine how it was in my first week there when an administrator confused me for a student (despite the fact I was wearing professional clothes!)And smoking does not help age you (as if that would ever be a serious suggestion)...as I have been smoking for over 10 years (I did quit when I got pregnant though, yay!) As a matter of fact, I would still get carded for smokes at the age of 25...Really, you are just going to have to suck it up. Your dad is right. And on top of that, you are going to meet so many people that irritate you in your life time. You are the only one suffering by caring at all what these people say/do/think. Remember that at 40, you won't look it. Surely, THAT has to be some type of motivation to keep that young face! :)*Beaver...calm down. I'm well aware of the fact smoking does physical damage to the body...you missed the point I was making for the asker. No need to throw an insult to teachers for that.
 
Personally I think you confuse someone being jealous for just wanting to associate with their own age group. Every college is like that...people associate with people who are like themselves based on age, race, religion, etc.If you go through life thinking people are jealous of you when no one really cares, you're going to have a chip on your shoulder and unneeded stress.
 
So are you still an undergrad or what? Most master's programs only take 2 years....I'm a little confused. Your details are little on the rambling side and tend to skew the question at hand.Okay, anyway....on to your original question:Acting mature will help, just like everyone is advising, but I think another thing that will help is to be confident in your abilities. YOU got yourself this far in life and obviously your appearance didn't effect you then, don't let it effect you now. YOU know your stuff, so don't let others tell you otherwise. YOU have to be confident and assertive (not to be confused with self-righteous and pushy). I can't do these things for you, no one can. Only YOU can do this for yourself.
 
Firstly, I'm sorry but hair down the back reminds me of a second - grader. I'd try getting at least a few inches cut off if you really want to look older. However, the issue might not be that you look young for your age. The truth is that your classmates probably do think of you as a child because you're 19. Many of them are probably almost old enough to have children your age, which is why they might not take you seriously. That's life, and part of being an adult. Instead of trying to change your appearance, just keep working, act in a professional manner, and let their condescending remarks roll off your back.
 
I am sure that you get tired of hearing: "You'll find out that... When you get to be my age.... Oh you don't know, yet ..... Just wait until you get married and then ...."When I had my twins I still looked like I was in my late teens but I was 27. I DID have confidence to be matter of fact with people but you will never be able to control another persons behavior. I had one lady tell me that I had no business with children 'at my age' when I told her my age she thought I was lying. You at least are on par with them socially & intellectually. As far as whether or not its jealousy. Its not. ALL those women are not jealous of you. They didn't successfully get through college undergrad courses & begin their careers then start taking master classes to further those careers acting like a bunch of left brained catty bimbos. That's just your dad trying to pep up his little girl by appealing to what he perceives a female process of association. If you are in class & the conversation turns personal, in a confident, FRIENDLY (not bitchy) voice ask a question about the material at hand. You also really should read: How to Win Friends & Influence People. by: Dale Carnegie Its a book that can help you deal with unpleasant people. It doesn't matter how old it is, trust me.Just so you know generally people don't "go for" their Master's Degree in a particular field until they have COMPLETED a degree program which takes generally 3-4 years. So your original statement coupled with the age qualifiers of your classmates implied that you were currently in a Masters program of study. THAT also implies that your some sort of child genius that is 5-6 years ahead of the game. Now that I have read your comment about how people don't read so well this morning, I think I can safely assume that you are NOT mature enough to take responsibility for your own errors (written or social) but that you are young enough to whine about unfair assumptions other people make about you.Generally if you want people to respect you as a mature young woman stamping an emotional foot, pointing fingers the big meanies and calling the people you asked for help stupid, isn't going to benefit you.Your looks aren't the issue. Your behavior is. YOUR perception is. Its very "high school" to be so worried about your looks & what your peers think. You aren't in control of their behavior only your own. Good luckaddendum: a straw-man-argument - a random fact (not opinion) that is used as evidence to prove a point that deliberately does NOT coincide with the topic at hand. ie: The sky is blue therefore all short people have an IQ of 25. See one has nothing to do with the other. SAHM'S do NOT hate working mothers. That is unfactual, how many SAHM's do you know? Are you a working mother? I thought you said that the fellow class mates were 30-40&50 with careers & kids? That would make the original 'big meanies' working mothers. You are throwing a temper tantrum here equivalent to "I AM NOT A BABY" When the only thing we have been telling you is that YOU are the only one who you can do anything about. You are not getting blasted; we just don't have any reason to coddle you. Your Daddy does though, that's why he's patting your head & enabling a swollen ego instead of actually parenting you by telling you to go to class to get the grade & bump others opinions & quit whining. You are not being completely honest with yourself, quit acting like a victim. Use the information you've been given here to improve yourself instead of pretending like you just got wronged somehow.
 
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