How can i get over my fears from being abused?

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For five years i was with an abusive guy, and he was my first for everything. And when things went bad, fooling around would be used as a punishment for something i did wrong(In his oppion) and i was forced to. But ever since i got away(with help) i have been serious with 2 guys and the same problem that came up with the first guy is now coming up now with the 2nd guy. That is about me never fooling around just jumping right into sex (because sex is something that was never used in a bad way) and im comfortable with this guy and i love him dearly, and he wants me to fool around more but i dont know how to get past what that guy did(the abusive one) I wanna please him cause he means the world to me but i just cringe when i think about it now period not just with him.
 
Talk to him (the 2nd guy) about it. If he loves you, he will be able to help you and comfort you. He probably will also understand why it may take some time for you to have more sex with him.
 
Your "new" guy will understand your position. - Tell him everything gently at the same time you ask him to help you back on the right track again.There is nothing more beautiful than to help someone we truly love and care about to love again.
 
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