Before we married six months ago my husband went to spain alone. He promised he would never do it again. We found out we were having a baby just before the wedding and were thrilled.
My husband then decided to book himself another lone holiday - to Gran Canaria, he leaves on Monday. Before he booked it I begged him not, I told him if he went it'd be over between us... when we married it was to be a family, not to have separate holidays. I am 7 1/2 months pregnant, I had a scan today, which has raised some worries (more to do with my health) & I need to be closely monitored for my health condition. I hate to be left right now... to know there is a problem & I'm at risk of pre-term labour makes it worse.
My husband has offered to go in September, but on the proviso that I don't make him feel guilty. He can't see the problem is not him going - it's his desire to go on his own - in the past he's taken women, yet now he's married me he wants to do things alone. All I've ever wanted is a family since I brought my son up alone. He used to holiday with his ex wife & their son.
Today he's not speaking to me. I told him to go if he wants, but he is just sulking & is very angry. We learnt our baby is very big - so he's now questioning whether he can be the father - insinuating that the dates are wrong! He said he needs to go as it will make him happy & I will never go - this is rubbish... I can't physically go now, but would love to go with him.
I don't know what to do. If he stays he'll be nasty, if he goes I can never forgive him; even if everything is fine I will still know that he is not someone who I can rely on for support. Also the fact that he wants to go without me hurts. I must confess I do struggle to trust that he will be faithful - away from the fat, pregnant wife and surrounded by bikini clad girls... sunshine, alcohol... and no one to tell on him when he returns (we don't have sex as he says its different now I'm pregnant & I know that sex is important to men)???
My husband then decided to book himself another lone holiday - to Gran Canaria, he leaves on Monday. Before he booked it I begged him not, I told him if he went it'd be over between us... when we married it was to be a family, not to have separate holidays. I am 7 1/2 months pregnant, I had a scan today, which has raised some worries (more to do with my health) & I need to be closely monitored for my health condition. I hate to be left right now... to know there is a problem & I'm at risk of pre-term labour makes it worse.
My husband has offered to go in September, but on the proviso that I don't make him feel guilty. He can't see the problem is not him going - it's his desire to go on his own - in the past he's taken women, yet now he's married me he wants to do things alone. All I've ever wanted is a family since I brought my son up alone. He used to holiday with his ex wife & their son.
Today he's not speaking to me. I told him to go if he wants, but he is just sulking & is very angry. We learnt our baby is very big - so he's now questioning whether he can be the father - insinuating that the dates are wrong! He said he needs to go as it will make him happy & I will never go - this is rubbish... I can't physically go now, but would love to go with him.
I don't know what to do. If he stays he'll be nasty, if he goes I can never forgive him; even if everything is fine I will still know that he is not someone who I can rely on for support. Also the fact that he wants to go without me hurts. I must confess I do struggle to trust that he will be faithful - away from the fat, pregnant wife and surrounded by bikini clad girls... sunshine, alcohol... and no one to tell on him when he returns (we don't have sex as he says its different now I'm pregnant & I know that sex is important to men)???