How can I deal with my whole lifestyle about to change, not for the good?

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My parents are making their divorce official soon. We live in a really nice, huge house in a beautiful neighborhood. Since they're separating and my dad is living on his own, we won't have money to keep the huge house. We'll be forced to move into an apartment. It's just going to be so difficult, moving from that fancy lifestyle i'm used to for 4 years, to living in an apartment with four other people (mom and siblings).

BUT, not only the material things. I'm still upset about this divorce, it's hurting me so bad. We used to do everything as a family, even a yr ago, and all the past happy memories make me upset knowing we'll never experience it. How can i cope?
I can't see a psychologist. My mom wouldn't really approve of that even though I am 18, and I don't really want to.
What things can I do or say to myself to get through this? 2009 was supposed to be a really good year.
I can't see a psychologist. My mom wouldn't really approve of that even though I am 18, and I don't really want to.
What things can I do or say to myself to get through this? 2009 was supposed to be a really good year.
 
Parents separation are always traumatic and sad. But you are helpless to do anything now. Probably you had your chances earlier by being a neutral person to try and help them solve their problems. Coming to your present situation you are 18 and cannot be called a child anymore. You should be able to see the world from an adult point of view. Accept what is not possible to change. going from a big house to a small apartment is ot a big deal as far as you can have a shift in the paradigm. What you require is a place to leave. Probably a small place may provide the necessary circumstances to have a better bonding with your siblings and mother. This change may be positive for you since you can start thinking of your future as an individual who has to earn for survival. Think positively and approach the problem. Everything should work well. Best of luck.
 
One step at a time, friend. I really don't know what to tell you other than to be strong and supportive. Be sure to keep the ties with your family members strong because you and your family will need them more than ever.

All happy memories are bittersweet after a time. When my friend died I thought I'd never be able to laugh about the jokes (and there were many) that we had together again. I still do, and I still laugh and smile when we tell stories. All of your memories of your family being together are still yours, and they are still happy and valuable.

You were probably soon going to move out, anyway, right? Once you move out it's never the same again, anyway. All you can do is be strong, smart, and optimistic-- I can tell that you are smart, and this experience will make you stronger if you are optimistic.

Good luck. I am sorry for the issues you have to deal with. It is tough, I know. But you will be able to make it, and happy times will always come.
 
I can relate to what you are going through. I am in the exact same kind of situation as well. My parents are planning on getting a divorce, which means we'll have to sell our house and move to an apartment.

But even though it might seem like your parents are meaning to hurt you with this divorce, they actually love you and are doing this for the better. Just think: no more parents fighting and screaming.

Every end has a beginning. As one chapter closes in life, another opens. I am optimistic that this coming year will be better for the both of us.

I, presonally, have had a really horrible year (worst year) and I was 16 years-old. I'm hoping a divorce will actually make my life, and also your life better than it is now.

Hang in there and also keep close to God and Jesus. Faith and religion has really helped me this whole year, I truly believe that it is the only thing holding me together, otherwise I would fall apart mentally. Trust me, it will get better. I know lots of people who have had divorces, and they're happier now.
 
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