that i'm not good enough? i feel like a loser in life. i just get people telling me i shouldn't do this and i'll be no good at that etc. It's starting to affect my confidence in myself and i feel like i can't believe in myself to do well. My mom died when i was in my early teens and so i have grown up with just my dad (I'm 21 btw)
He has never been the pushy parent and never really forced me to better myself, i'll suggest something to him and he'll just say something to put me off. All he wants me to do is get a crappy job with no prospects as long as he gets his rent, and that is it.
I know now that it is up to me and i'm grown up to make my own mind up, but when people tell you that you won't do it or your not gonna be good enough it puts you down. I even say to my dad and some other members of my familty about going to university, but all i get back is "it's just a waste of money and you'll just get into debt" etc, but what do i do just work in a dead end job, have no career and be a waster in life?
It's like nothing is meant to go right for me! 1st my mum dies, 2nd i get a knee injury which ruins my chances of doing boxing which has been a dream of mine forever, then 3rd i lose my job and no matter what i do to find another job it's not happening, I could go for ages listing off things that have happened or are happening in my life to make it s**t, but i don't want to bore you all. I know i should feel privileged to be alive, have all my limbs and live in a home, but in this society it's like you have to fit in with everyone else and if you don't act or be like someone else then your seen as a disappointment. I just feel at a loss, has anyone got some good advice please?
He has never been the pushy parent and never really forced me to better myself, i'll suggest something to him and he'll just say something to put me off. All he wants me to do is get a crappy job with no prospects as long as he gets his rent, and that is it.
I know now that it is up to me and i'm grown up to make my own mind up, but when people tell you that you won't do it or your not gonna be good enough it puts you down. I even say to my dad and some other members of my familty about going to university, but all i get back is "it's just a waste of money and you'll just get into debt" etc, but what do i do just work in a dead end job, have no career and be a waster in life?
It's like nothing is meant to go right for me! 1st my mum dies, 2nd i get a knee injury which ruins my chances of doing boxing which has been a dream of mine forever, then 3rd i lose my job and no matter what i do to find another job it's not happening, I could go for ages listing off things that have happened or are happening in my life to make it s**t, but i don't want to bore you all. I know i should feel privileged to be alive, have all my limbs and live in a home, but in this society it's like you have to fit in with everyone else and if you don't act or be like someone else then your seen as a disappointment. I just feel at a loss, has anyone got some good advice please?