focus on herself? I've been having problems with one of my bridesmaids. Ever since I asked her, she has been complaining about costs, left and right. Unfortunately, I don't know how much everything else will cost her, other than her dress. I know she is in a funk with money, and I did cover the first half of her dress, to help her out, and even specified that she would need to have the other half plus alterations covered. I would pay for more, short of her plane ticket, but I am having financial problems myself. She has to purchase a plane ticket, in order to come, and she is even trying to come sooner than planned, and I told her that I would not be able to get her on the days she wants to arrive and take her on the day she is wanting to return. She can't stay at my house, the night of the wedding, as the wedding and reception are over an hour away, and expected me to find a place for her to stay, free of charge. Is it polite to say: " I didn't realize that my bridesmaids would have to commit so much money. I get the feeling that this could be an expense you don't need right now, and if that is the case, please don't feel obligated to do it. There will be several more costs associated as a bridesmaid, and there are no guarantees that I will know them in advance." I am almost to the point where I think it would be best for her not to travel, as $80 for a dress is too much for her.
I forgot to add that I am getting married Feb 6.
I forgot to add that I am getting married Feb 6.