HEY IS IT WEIRD TO FEEL LIKE THIS?

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Chantelle

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hey im channy :D18 and a virgin
im with this guy we have been together 6 months its great i love him and all.......hes not a virgin and has apparently had more then a few one night stands....this kind of bothers me and its quite unsettling.... i dont think that it would bother me as much as if he was i relationships with them i think its the fact they were one night stands............am i being silly i seriously cant get over it what shoud i do
it was at least a year ago since hes last one, i feel like im starting to dislike him because of it i dont afree with one night stands at all
 
no its not weird, i'd kinda feel that way too at first
but you have been with him for 6 months so i doubt its a one night stand
talk to him about it and tell him how its making you feel uneasy about it
 
I think you are right to be concerned. I'd be disturbed too. Thats pretty gross. Who knows what diseases he has.
If you can't get over it, maybe you should move on from him.
 
Of course it's not weird. Anybody would be bothered by that. It would be a different story if it were with people that he cared about, but instead it was insignificant people, who he had little or no contact with after wards. One night stands say a lot about someones character. He obviously doesn't view sex as something that should be shared between two people who love and care about each other.
 
I think its just really intimidating....

when i started going out with my current boyfriend and i was a virgin and he wasnt i felt like there was alot of pressure on having sex becuase he had and i hadnt. Its almost like it puts the two of you on different levels. but we talked about it and he's a great guy and that one night didnt seem like such a big deal (the night he lost his virginity he was drunk)
and i also thought it wouldnt make me as special to him.

i was dead wrong, but its completely normal to feel the way you do

hope this helps:)
 
R these 1 night stands going on while u r dating? If so, then u really need 2 dump him and yes then it is normal. And if it's the other way around then don't worry because the past is the past!
Good luck!
 
well every girl feels like this at some point all you have to do is talk to him and tell him how u feel about it am sure he's going to understand you tell him you want it to be special not just some one night stand and that you're scared he'll do that to you make sure u also use protection you dont know if he has any infections if he's had so many one night stands and ofcourse is going to bother you u feel nasty or used just talk it out i hope i helped :D
 
As a person that carefully guards my sexuality, I would feel like you as well. I don't even know if I could be with a person like that. I guess it might be OK as long as he comforts you in some way and has changed his mentality. Maybe this was a long time ago?
 
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