As far as I know you can't get herpes from a bed or toilet seat, the herpes virus is fragile, it dries out when exposed to the air.
Here's an info page: http://www.cdc.gov/std/herpes/default.htm
"HSV-1 and HSV-2 can be found in and released from the sores that the viruses cause, but they also are released between outbreaks from skin that does not appear to have a sore. Generally, a person can only get HSV-2 infection during sexual contact with someone who has a genital HSV-2 infection. Transmission can occur from an infected partner who does not have a visible sore and may not know that he or she is infected.
HSV-1 can cause genital herpes, but it more commonly causes infections of the mouth and lips, so-called
