help with sex ....i feel dirty? both gender's help plz?

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ok well plz help with this and do not make any stupid comments,thanks.

ok when i have sex and get to an orgasm i start feeling bad about myself..and self conscious about everything.
i start to think weather my bf still likes me etc(we have a baby together and it has not been anything BUT perfect since) we have a fabulous house and a great dog,i adore my son and my bf and we're planning to get married soon.
ok..so what do i do? why is this? its basically before sex i think about it(second time it happened) and its not like i regret anything and i am totally fine with everything bcoz there is nothing to be not fine about..
but then comes the orgasm from my side,not his and i just dont wanna carry on anymore,i wanna cover up and go sleep (even when i am not tired)i also feel disgusting as in who would actually want me...its not as bad as paranoia but what is wrong>help ?
p.s i prefer talking about this here then to a doc unless there is something none of u cant help me with
 
ive kind of got the same thing as you. After ive had an orgasm i hate carrying on having sex and feel physically sick. I hate my boyfriend touching me for a while after to. I think it might be something to do with hormones, not totally sure though.
 
I think maybe you are just not comfortable with letting go. It is a very vulnerable moment and a very intimate thing. Don't beat yourself up about it and try not to worry. If you keep being intimate with your boyfriend, it will probably become easier and you will trust that his feelings won't alter towards you, just because you have taken pleasure in a very normal and natural way!
 
i used to feel like that after i had my first daughter. i felt like " why is he with me and not someone else" its like you kinda feel like your not good enough to be with that person. you feel ugly and insecure. thats how i felt anyways. but in the end sooner or later you will realize that he is with you, he clearly loves you, and if he can finish knowing that hes doing you. than you know he wants to be doing it with you. your the one he is doing it with, and no one else, so no worries, i think its normal.. i mean.. after a child. your body changes and you feel yucky! like there are so many better women out there he could be with or imagining. but hes not. hes with you.

i hope to have helped.
trust me, im the most insecure person, and jelous person in the WORLD. i swear. and its bad!! i know it is.. and its hard to just change on a dime. you know.
but dont worry, im sure your perfectly fine the way you are!!


much love.
Sarah
 
You will not receive the answer you really need on here.

This could be any number of different mental conditions (don't get scared by that). You could have anxiety, even post-partum depression, etc.

This is a mental thing, not a physical thing.

You must see a doctor and explain what is going on.
 
Are you on the pill or any other medication, because there can be side effects similar to what you are describing. If so, sorry I know you said you don't like going to your doc, but you may just need to go see them just to change what you're taking.
Otherwise, it sounds like something psychological, probably far to complicated for anyone on here to answer, and you should maybe go to see a therapist.
Good luck x
 
okay this is a really common thing that a lot of girls feel. i think it has something to do with the rush of hormones you get when you have an orgasm, or you are stimulated.. i don't feel like that all the time but it happens often. i don't know what advice to offer but try to ignore the feeling
 
It sounds to me like you may be suffering from a touch of post partum depression. Although, I'm not a Doctor. This is just my personal opinion. Don't feel bad about speaking with your Doctor about this. It's very common for mothers to go through this. Your Doctor could prescribe something that will make you feel much better. Good luck!
 
i used to think the same as your thinking now but i was abused when i was a child so i had a reason to feel that way maybe its because you just had a baby and your body's changed im not really sure but i hope you feel better soon x
 
Honestly that is something you need to discuss with a doctor or even figure out the facts on your own of why. We can give you many many guesses but it will only add to your stress trying to sort this through.
Best of luck...seek professional advice!
 
My ex and my baby's father is the only man I never felt that way with. I for some reason felt that exact same way with all my other boyfriends. I never knew why I thought that, I just recognized when it stopped... :)
 
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