Help, please? I'm 5 months pregnant, and my husband is acting very shy about...

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Justyna

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...intimacy...?!? Ok, well, I'm 25, and I'm 5 months pregnant. My husband, Patrick, is 26, and very supportive of me. He gets me whatever I need, lets me take naps when I get home from work because I'm exhausted, and makes dinner for me and willingly does whatever else needs to be done around the house. Well, since I got pregnant, my sex drive has been extremely high (Patrick's has always been high, too,) but I have a question... Sometimes Patrick acts funny about having sex with me... Usually he comes to my doctor's appointments with me to see how the baby is doing, but then for a few days after, he'll seem sort of scared to have sex. I think he's scared he'll hurt me or the baby. I told him he won't, but he still seems afraid. He's sort of shy about it; for those few days after my appointment, he'll be really shy every time I'm turned on, and if I ask him how come, he just sort of mumbles something and turns sort of red. After about a week, he'll have sex with me without much hesitation, but for those few days, he's sort of shy about intimacy. I don't understand... What's going on? How come he's like this? And what should I do to make him feel better...?
He'd never cheat on me. I trust him 110%. And he's still attracted... I worried about that, too, but I can feel and see him get hard, but he still acts shy about it and sort of pulls away a bit during those few days...
 
This might sound like a cop out but his behaviour could be for any number of reasons and I do not know him so I can only speculate. One reason (looking positively) is that he's afraid of hurting the baby. This could be the case. Another reason is that he is not attracted to you for sex whilst your stomach is bulging. A third reason (the most pessimistic) is that he has started wanting another woman. Only you can discover the real reason. Have you tried talking to him? That is the first step. See how he reacts to you talking. Is he acting suspiciously or creeping off. If so then he has probably found another woman. I hope this is not the case so ask him to explain why he doesn't want sex. He might be focused on the baby and physically tired. Only you can find out the reason as men are all individuals and all react differently to pregnancy. I didn't get put off sex and in fact enjoyed it more because we didn't have to worry about family planning whilst my wife was pregnant.
 
you should speak to him about this but seems as if he's got your best intrests at heart which is very nice. He's obviously a little bit scared he doesnt want too make you or the baby uncomfortable
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This might sound like a cop out but his behaviour could be for any number of reasons and I do not know him so I can only speculate. One reason (looking positively) is that he's afraid of hurting the baby. This could be the case. Another reason is that he is not attracted to you for sex whilst your stomach is bulging. A third reason (the most pessimistic) is that he has started wanting another woman. Only you can discover the real reason. Have you tried talking to him? That is the first step. See how he reacts to you talking. Is he acting suspiciously or creeping off. If so then he has probably found another woman. I hope this is not the case so ask him to explain why he doesn't want sex. He might be focused on the baby and physically tired. Only you can find out the reason as men are all individuals and all react differently to pregnancy. I didn't get put off sex and in fact enjoyed it more because we didn't have to worry about family planning whilst my wife was pregnant.
 
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