Help-My dad complains about...?

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ShouldBeSleeping

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My dad always complains about his job. He switched places like maybe 7 months ago because his other company was moving to a different state. He comes home every day as is super stressed out and says that his job is killing him. Sometimes, he'll even say really stupid things like "Oh, you guys will get money from me when this job kills me".
It scares me a lot, but it also makes me super mad. For one thing, I think that he should be happy that he actually has a job that pays pretty good while others can't find anything. I THINK he doesn't like his job because at his old one, he could get away with a lot more and he wasn't under as much watch from others, and he just absolutely hates any change. And if he really hates it, my mom and I have been telling him to start looking for another one, but he wont, so he's not really helping himself. And when he does look once in awhile, he just complains that he hates the field he's in and says that he should just open up a business when he knows NOTHING about the business and doesn't have the money to do so. (he doesn't have the money to go back to college because he's paying for me and my brother).
I feel really bad for him because he's my dad and I dont want him stressed out but I also feel really bad for my mom because she constantly has to listen to him say these kinds of things. I have a feeling he's going through depression, but he wont go to the doctor or anything. He won't help himself.

Does anyone have ANY suggestions of what to do if he wont help himself or do we all, including him, just have to keep going through this?
 
When a Man or Woman has worked at a job for a long while and knows every aspect of it, probably likes doing it, and then a huge change comes along it is not an easy thing to handle. Plus you have it every day, day after day. If you have never had a job you can't possibly understand what he's going through. You are still at home, things haven't changed much for you. Here you are without understanding and he feels alone in his misery. Give of yourself to this man your father. It may not always be easy, but he needs support now and understanding. Try to be that support. Encouragement means a lot at at time like this. Yes, having a job is a good thing, but he is the one going through a very rough time.
 
He needs to understand that he has to make a living and keep a roof over yalls head. he probaly won't look for anotherjobbecause he is scare he won't be able to find another. He not getting depress he just settling. Like you said he hates changes. Just be there for him help him though this.
 
He needs to understand that he has to make a living and keep a roof over yalls head. he probaly won't look for anotherjobbecause he is scare he won't be able to find another. He not getting depress he just settling. Like you said he hates changes. Just be there for him help him though this.
 
He needs to understand that he has to make a living and keep a roof over yalls head. he probaly won't look for anotherjobbecause he is scare he won't be able to find another. He not getting depress he just settling. Like you said he hates changes. Just be there for him help him though this.
 
I don't know how old you are, but I don't think a father should be complaining to his child about his job. If he's going to "shoot his mouth off" about his job, he should complain to another adult friend or his wife/partner, not you. If I were you and he starts complaining to you, I would tell him (if you're not afraid of him), that he shouldn't be complaining to you and that he should be happy he has a job. You are exactly right. I've been unemployed for over a year. Lost my apt and had to move in with my bf who has 3 kids that are not pleasant at all sometimes. Anyway....tell him with the economy the way it is, he should be happy he has a job and you're not homeless. I know it's tough, but don't feel that you are responsible for his feelings. You can feel for him, but it sounds like he's whining too much. Oh, and that is just irresponsible for him to tell you that "you guys will get money from me when this job kills me". Sometimes, it doesn't hurt to call a crisis hotline and get an opinion from them. They are really good at helping and giving suggestions. I'm angered that he is talking this way in front of you. That is horrible parenting. There has to come a point where you should just walk away from him while he's complaining. He is adding stress to your life that you shouldn't have to deal with. Email me if you like. I'm open to emails. I'll try to help as much as I can. Hang in there.
 
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