Help, i feel trapped in an abusive environment, what should I do? HELP!!?

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Help, i live at home and i graduated college. I got laid off and I am going to start my new job this week. My living situation is a nightmare. Luckilly i am going to go to law school next year and I am hoping i get accepted somewhere far far away.
anyway, I just need some advice on how to cope and survive in a VERY disfunctional, emotionally damaging environment.
For instance, here's what happened just now: i made a homemade dish and i offered my dad to try some. he said in a very rude manner, "NO" and i said, "why not, it's homemade" and he's like, rudely, "because i'm not hungry" and then there was some more talk I forget, and he somehow twisted it around that i was "forcing" him to eat it. and then my big mistake was that i said, defeatedly, "alright, jerk, what's your problem?" and he FLEW OFF THE HANDLE and screamed, "don't call me JERK, AS$HOLE, I'll put a boot up your a$s" verbatim. then i said "sorry" and he CONTINUED. saying i am being 'sarcastic' (everything i do is "sarcastic" to him...). He went on some tangent, putting words in my mouth about other issues. Things i NEVER said. Asked me "when are you getting a job?" even though he knows I GOT a job. he makes me feel there's something wrong with me for getting laid off and for having difficulty finding a job. He got really close and was yelling in my face. He has risen a hand to me.

Please don't tell me to move out., i cannot afford it right now. I just need to know how to handle this? HELP! i was just crying my eyes out just now.
also, can you believe a father would call his daughter "a#$hole"?!?!?! I will NEVER call my kid an a#$hole when i have one.
oh, I remember, he was yelling at me that i was being "defensive" about my homemade food (yeah, i don't know either....) and that's when i was annoyed and said, "alright, jerk..."
So yes, I know i shouldn't have said that, but i still do not feel that warrented the reaction described above.
 
tell him how u feel an that if hez gonna treat u like an asshole then u should treat him like 1 an try 2 stay away from him.He soundz like a jerk
 
Hey calm down now I have a son who does that in your face stuff. I know . OK when you keep pushing that is what starts the whole thing. YOU just need to hear the FIRST answer and let it be. Even thou it hurts that you went to all that and the the out-come wasn't what you expected. I know being a lawyer is always digging to find out the reason. Just for now if he is that way then you make yourself scarce. I know it may hurt, but that is the safest way.
 
You are obviously going through some changes now in your relationship between you and your Dad, but maybe your dad has some problems of his own, if so, do you think you best let him be for a while, but if not, he could just be sensitive about you at the moment, for example, When he said get a Job, he might just be thinking about your future, i know he seems like an A$shole, but he is your Dad and Will always love you, try to find out the problems in your relationship with your father and solve them, as far as dads go, you only get One real Dad, and he is all you've got. The thing to do is stay away from things like Illegal Drugs or Alcohol, as these are mostly depressants and will only do you worse, so stay away from them. Pick me for best answer Please
 
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