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Andrea
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He says he thought I wouldn't care, however, it will cost us about $1000 he said AND,
1) I am newly pregnant with our second child and will be 7 1/2 mths when he goes,
2) We just recently closed our savings account bc we needed the money to pay bills (newly living paycheck to paycheck)
3) We don't have health insurance to cover the cost of the baby so I am going to a birthing center to minimize the cost. (Assuming no complications, which could mean astronomical cost)
4) He has only been at his job for a short time so there is no guarantee in this economy.
5) We already have 20k in credit card debt.
6) We were hoping to buy a home in the next year but have no money for a down pmt.
He is a wonderful man but now I feel so hurt that he has put me in this position...I feel betrayed and am in disbelief that he would think I would be okay with this. I really think it is all-around inappropriate at this point in our lives.
I have told him how upset I am about all of it, but he just seems to think we should be able to come up with the money by then. Yes, we should have some tax money coming in, but I don't see that in our financial situation we should be using the money for that.
He obviously really wants to go, because he is not letting up in trying to figure out ways to make me okay with it, I just don't think I will ever be.
I feel like my only options here are to either suck it up OR tell him not to go but then he will resent me. Any thoughts?
1) I am newly pregnant with our second child and will be 7 1/2 mths when he goes,
2) We just recently closed our savings account bc we needed the money to pay bills (newly living paycheck to paycheck)
3) We don't have health insurance to cover the cost of the baby so I am going to a birthing center to minimize the cost. (Assuming no complications, which could mean astronomical cost)
4) He has only been at his job for a short time so there is no guarantee in this economy.
5) We already have 20k in credit card debt.
6) We were hoping to buy a home in the next year but have no money for a down pmt.
He is a wonderful man but now I feel so hurt that he has put me in this position...I feel betrayed and am in disbelief that he would think I would be okay with this. I really think it is all-around inappropriate at this point in our lives.
I have told him how upset I am about all of it, but he just seems to think we should be able to come up with the money by then. Yes, we should have some tax money coming in, but I don't see that in our financial situation we should be using the money for that.
He obviously really wants to go, because he is not letting up in trying to figure out ways to make me okay with it, I just don't think I will ever be.
I feel like my only options here are to either suck it up OR tell him not to go but then he will resent me. Any thoughts?