My fiance and I have been together for 3 years. He got deployed to Iraq in Aug. 2008. I got board one night (as sleep is hard to come by) and when in to a yahoo chat room. I started talking to different people, some girls, some guys. Nothing sexual just general chit chat. I didn't think it was a big deal. but my fiance, who can hack any computer he wants, hacked in to my computer and found the message logs. Now he is accusing me of cheating because I talked to other men. Well we got thought that problem ( or so I thought). It has been a month now and when I talk to him he is rude, he has ensalted my Intelligences, acts like he doesn't want to talk to me.
I have tried being nice and sweet. I all ways try to understand where he is and what he's going though. but when I try make him laugh and feel better he gets worse. I don't know what to do any more. I can't take the verbal abuse and the way that he refuses to see that he is not the only who suffers.
What should I do?
the only thing he is mad about is that I talked to a man. He knows what we talked about. And he is mad that I don't see the wrong in it.
I would not get made at him for talking to a women.
17 minutes ago
This is his second deployment.
He was married to his first wife (who cheated on him and left him). I have been cheated on before (by my first husband), so I know how much it hurts. And I have told him many times that that is one reason I would never cheat on him. The other is because he is my world, my heart, and my soul.
But he says that he think I was lying to him when I told him that.
I have tried being nice and sweet. I all ways try to understand where he is and what he's going though. but when I try make him laugh and feel better he gets worse. I don't know what to do any more. I can't take the verbal abuse and the way that he refuses to see that he is not the only who suffers.
What should I do?
the only thing he is mad about is that I talked to a man. He knows what we talked about. And he is mad that I don't see the wrong in it.
I would not get made at him for talking to a women.
17 minutes ago
This is his second deployment.
He was married to his first wife (who cheated on him and left him). I have been cheated on before (by my first husband), so I know how much it hurts. And I have told him many times that that is one reason I would never cheat on him. The other is because he is my world, my heart, and my soul.
But he says that he think I was lying to him when I told him that.