Heated debate question among coworkers, your thoughts?

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Justin

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A 20ish guy I work with noticed a girl on his social networking page and made the comment that a friend of his got an std from her. Several other coworkers wanted to know who it was in order to avoid dating her. I thought that was rather distasteful so the debate began.

The question is after dating someone for a while, they confide in you that they have a non life threatening std (HPV or HSV) would you continue to date them if you were already emotionally attached. Note that you have not yet slept with this person.

My answer: If I were single and emotionally attached I would not let that be the deal breaker in the pursuit for love.
 
Considering that the majority of adults have some form of HPV, and several strains are harmless, I wouldn't chuck someone without knowing more.

However, I would NOT go around telling other people that I got an STD from this particular person. It's not right to divulge other people's medical history. It's that woman's responsibility to inform her lovers that she has an STD, and NOT the responsibility of past lovers.
 
I think if they were not forthcoming with me when they saw the relationship was going somewhere before I became emotional attached I think it would be a deal breaker. When you have a STD it is your moral obligation to share it with someone who will get intimate with you.
That is just my opinion.
 
Since I am married and never been in that situation... I am thankful I never needed to choose. The answer is we do not know unless we are at that point in a relationship and asked the question. I was once told the person I was seeing had multiple personalities... I chose not to believe it, then one day I saw it was true and that was the end... one of his other personalities fathered my daughter not him!
 
It really would depend on the person and the situation. If I just started dating the person, and they told me right away, it might be in my best interest to stop dating them (sorry, but just because herpes won't kill you, doesn't mean I want it). Also, if they were so stupid as to tell me AFTER we had sex, I'd definitely dump them.

In the realm of possibilities in the way that I have always conducted my relationships, i can't imagine me staying with someone who had an STD. I value my body too much. But, that's just me.
 
i absolutely would Not! no way in hell. my vagina is pretty important to me...having healthy babies is important to me. i think sex is very important in a relationship, i wouldn't want to deal with that. or take huge risks with my body and my health that way.
 
I agree with you, not a deal breaker, but I would probably always have thoughts in the back of my head about why she caught something, unless she was very open and upfront about everything, which all relationships should be.
 
yes. if its not life threating and you are attached and in love than no would not let some one go that i am in love with because of an std that they once had thats silly and immature
 
yes. if its not life threating and you are attached and in love than no would not let some one go that i am in love with because of an std that they once had thats silly and immature
 
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