Fira Infinity
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My husband is finishing his Ph.D and it is a crucial time for him. He needs peace and quiet to think on his work, but my family never stops. They all hassle me. Usually one member of the family will call me with their problems and then I start getting incoming calls on the other line. They basically ask me to call other family members and they put me in the middle of their troubles. When my parents feel bad, they call me and vent on me completely, sometimes speaking all the time and not really conversing with me. I feel constantly dragged into my family's endless issues, and helpless to do much.
My mother particularly is a problem. She feels she can walk into my apartment if I don't answer my phone when she calls beforehand. Once she arrives, she has a tendency to hang around in my house and begin eating food from my fridge. She will use her hands most of the time, without a plate. After eating she sits down and hangs around talking to me about her problems and worries.
She never showers and her breath is very strong. She is very sensitive and if I try talking to her and tell her it's too late in the day for her to be here, she takes it personally!
My sister sometimes comes with her and she leaves her stuff in my apartment and asks to borrow my clothes, which I never see unless I come over to her house and get my clothes back. She will also randomly open my fridge and eat my food without asking. She's very messy and leaves wrappers and lids on the counters. I've told them many times to call before coming in and they seem to forget. They like to just walk in.
My mother is also trying to start her small business, and I'm the one stuck helping her with her business card, which has already had over 10 revisions. I wouldn't mind so much if it weren't for the fact that every time she needs a revision, she comes over to my place and wastes my whole afternoon on a simple change on the card.
I am doing it for free because she and the rest of my family are kind of poor. The parents are separated but have such little income, the mother is using their living room as her bedroom and keeps her stuff there. My brother pays for their food along with my father, and my mom is always complaining about there not being enough food in the fridge, but my father disagrees about that, and points out he is letting her live on his rent even though they are separated.
I get stuck in the middle of this bullshit frequently and they pass on their unhappiness to me, which affects my husband too. It's like a web of shit.
How do I get it to stop? The long phone calls, the barging in, the hassle? It's such a nuisance!!
UUURGH my mother ate the slice of pumpkin pie I was saving for my husband...and she didn't even ask if she could take it! He didn't even get to have any
and he paid for the whole meal on thanksgiving and had them all over for dinner
My mother particularly is a problem. She feels she can walk into my apartment if I don't answer my phone when she calls beforehand. Once she arrives, she has a tendency to hang around in my house and begin eating food from my fridge. She will use her hands most of the time, without a plate. After eating she sits down and hangs around talking to me about her problems and worries.
She never showers and her breath is very strong. She is very sensitive and if I try talking to her and tell her it's too late in the day for her to be here, she takes it personally!
My sister sometimes comes with her and she leaves her stuff in my apartment and asks to borrow my clothes, which I never see unless I come over to her house and get my clothes back. She will also randomly open my fridge and eat my food without asking. She's very messy and leaves wrappers and lids on the counters. I've told them many times to call before coming in and they seem to forget. They like to just walk in.
My mother is also trying to start her small business, and I'm the one stuck helping her with her business card, which has already had over 10 revisions. I wouldn't mind so much if it weren't for the fact that every time she needs a revision, she comes over to my place and wastes my whole afternoon on a simple change on the card.
I am doing it for free because she and the rest of my family are kind of poor. The parents are separated but have such little income, the mother is using their living room as her bedroom and keeps her stuff there. My brother pays for their food along with my father, and my mom is always complaining about there not being enough food in the fridge, but my father disagrees about that, and points out he is letting her live on his rent even though they are separated.
I get stuck in the middle of this bullshit frequently and they pass on their unhappiness to me, which affects my husband too. It's like a web of shit.
How do I get it to stop? The long phone calls, the barging in, the hassle? It's such a nuisance!!
UUURGH my mother ate the slice of pumpkin pie I was saving for my husband...and she didn't even ask if she could take it! He didn't even get to have any
and he paid for the whole meal on thanksgiving and had them all over for dinner