has you husband ever wanted to live a single lifestyle after having children?

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23andmotherof3

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because my does. and for the most part is right now. he watches the children while im at work but when i come home he leaves even if he doesnt have to go to work. we are the next thing to a divorce. im so sad i just need to vent.
i should of mentioned i just had back surgery a little over 4 weeks ago and could really use the extra help.
 
Yes, Yes, Yes! He sleeps most of the time when home even though his job is easy, he plays video games when he's not sleeping and has nothing to do with our son and kicked me out when 4 months pregnant(currently 7 months) all b/c he says he has no time with me and doesn't get "it" enough! Wonder why he has no time with me???
 
Knowing that there is a problem is the first step to solving it.

Talk to him. Try to understand.

If you can't work it out alone, try counseling together.
 
Yes, Yes, Yes! He sleeps most of the time when home even though his job is easy, he plays video games when he's not sleeping and has nothing to do with our son and kicked me out when 4 months pregnant(currently 7 months) all b/c he says he has no time with me and doesn't get "it" enough! Wonder why he has no time with me???
 
No my husband has never done that to me or my kids. I honestly believe that you need to pray to Jesus for wisdom, guidence and patience. He will show you the way
 
Yes to first part of your question. Thats why so many marriages end in divorce. People forget that being married includes sacrificing some of their single life activities.

But it doesnt sound like thats what your husband is doing. Sounds like he just needs to get out of the house and have a break after looking after children all day.

When I was stay at home mum, when my (ex)husband got home from work and come inside, the kids would be excited to see him, and I was excited to see his motorbike. I put on my helmet, jumped on that bike and went for a ride for half an hour or so, to get out, get away, feel the wind in my face, the freedom, sometimes stop for a coffee with a girl-friend, just to forget about home, and dishes, and dirty nappy's, and crying kids for a while. Then go back home, relaxed, more composed, and read my kids a bed-time story, and then say a cheeky hello with my (ex)husband. My husband understood the need for my break for freedom at the end of the day dealing with 2 toddlers, he was cool with it.
 
honestly, it just sounds like he needs a break... he does watch the kids all day so I dont think he's all that bad... the only difference is that if you were home all day with the kids, you would need a break too but women are stronger people and can handle more and usually dont take breaks for themselves.
 
omg, i was having the same issue with my boyfriend. He works a 5day 40hr week and watches our son(2days) while i work a 3day 30hr week. for the longest time when id get home from work he'd leave to the bar or whatever or he'd just go straight from his job. One nightafter arguing about it he really messed up, i was going to leave. If it wasnt for our son and how he is as a father i wouldve.
I understand people saying they need a break> but whatever women and men are both strong. When you start a family your 'me' time becomes we time! I dont care what society mandates!
For us it took my man making a huge mistake, riskin our family for him to realize what it ment to him. i wish it wasnt that way.. and i hope it donest have to be for you!!

COUNciling is my advise. It really helps even if you go alone!
 
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