Has anyone had to ask for money from parents in law to pay for wedding?

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Mary

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Basically my parents have volunteered to put up a lot of the funds. The parents in law have said they'll pay for 'some of the alcohol'. We're not having a huge wedding and they earn heaps more than my parents and have no daughters so it's not like they're ever going to have to pay for a full wedding. Fiance & I think tradition of the bride's parents paying is dumb anyway and think it would be fair if we all go a third each. Has anyone ever had to have the money conversation with stingy parents or parents in law? What did you say?
 
Sorry, but nobody owes you a wedding. If your parents offered their assistance financially, then gladly and appreciatively accept it. But do not make your fiance's parents feel guilty for not paying for the amount you expected. Most couples pay for their own weddings these days. Plan something you can afford with what you have, and what you have been offered - not something that requires you to ask your future in laws for more money.
 
I absolutely agree with Digital. However, my fiance and I did ask all of our immediate relatives if they'd be willing to help us with part of the cost (we're still in school and don't have heaps of savings). Most would not, and we were okay with that because they don't owe us anything. The ones that did were a big help. We used part of our own savings plus what they gave us, and are making it work and NOT going into any debt for it. Take what you can get, but be sure to put in some of your own money too -- it is YOUR wedding, after all.
 
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