Had the sex talk with my daughter and she started crying!?

ok. so im not her mother. im her 16 year old sister. my little sister is 11 years old (turning 12 in 4 months) and my mom babys her SO much. ive been begging her to tell her what sex is for over a year now. my mom told me and my sister in 3rd grade, my little sister is in 5th! so i told my little sister what it is and she started crying! CRYING! shes like i dont want to do that! what should i do?
and my mom said she would KILL me if i told my little sister what sex was....any advice?
trust me i told her in a gentle way. i made it seem so easy and gentle and everything. very calm. like what the heck
 
Well if your mom said not to tell your sister than why did you tell her anyways ?!?!?! That was stupid and immature of you and it was kinda stupid of your mom to tell you that in 3rd grade when you hadn't even had a frickin' period yet !! You should wait until the person gets their own period or until she's 14 or 15 whichever comes first. Just tell your mom and except the consequences. Your sister was probably just scared and upset about it.
 
Maybe she just needs to be told it in a different way like a gentler way.
when my mum tried to talk to me about it when i was like 8 or 9 or whatever i was just in shock and embarrassed so maybe that's how your sis shows she embarrassed or shocked. talk to her about it again ina gentler and simpler way, it might work.
good luck xx
 
well. your doomed. you know she is going to tell your mom that you told her. might as well start packing your shit now. get a head start on walking before your mom gets home. why do you care so much that she knows about it, anyway?
 
Well you might want to take a shower and do your hair the way you like it, in order to expedite the burial process, the funeral home never gets it right.
 
Apologize to your sister for taking the liberty of telling her when Mom may have done it in a way that worked better for her.

Then assure her that the most important thing when it comes to sex, is love. A better term would be lovemaking.

She needn't and shouldn't EVER do what she is uncomfortable with. Making love is a giving thing meant for mature adults. Tell her not to worry her little head about something she need not be concerned with for years.
And by then things won't seem so awful. It will be a source of fulfillment for her.

The next few years, she can just have fun being a typical kid.

Then invite her to have ice cream or play/learn backgammon or something and move on.
 
TMI

If you were a bit more grown up yourself; you might have had a clue that crying when given too much information all at once isn't a strange reaction at all.

It would be nice if you sucked-it up and tell your mom what happened; instead of worrying about yourself and the trouble you might get in. If that is too much for you; then call her pediatrician so he or she can speak with your sister.

Your sister needs an adult she can talk to. Despite your efforts to be 'gentle'; it is possible that she may have questions, concerns, feelings, or even some inaccurate information (either you don't have all needed information or she could have not understood some of what you said.) I hope you will tell an adult who can talk to your sister, that is the only 'right' thing to do at this point.
 
regardless on how you will put it, this topic is never comfortable to discuss.
I say lay it on the table straight and see what happens.
 
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