GUYS-how often have you "lost respect" for a girl after they had sex w/ you?

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what if she was a virgin? HELP!? I KNOW THIS IS LONG! BUT READ PLS?
I'm 20 & a virgin (impossible, right?) & have been dating my current bf for a year & a half now. He's been so patient w/ me which I appreciate A LOT.. I know it must be hard for him (no pun intended! haa) He's 26.
No he's not been getting any side action (again, I know it's unheard of). We've been dating long distance for a good chunk of our relationship (we met in college & he was studying here from the UK but he had to go back...)
He's coming to see me for my bday in April, for a week, and I really wanna share something special w/ him b/c he means SO much to me. For us to have stayed strong and stay committed, with the distance and all, just proves to me that we have something special. I mean there's no point in us wasting time if we didn't mean anything to each other.
So yeah, I wanna have sex with him, and I'm not asking on Y!A whether or not I should do it so don't assume anything. It's just that he'll only be here for a week and I don't wanna seem "easy" by doing it w/ him in such a short time frame, ya know?
I know he won't think that way, but I'm used to being the "girl that got away" lol, I'm used to NOT having sex/making them wait. Maybe that's why I feel this way.
Anyways, he's done so much for me. I know he loves me. He's been waiting for me (no pressure) and he deserves it, I'm just scared he'll be over me afterwards! (I have trust issues, I know, lol). But if I don't? When the f*ck will he get laid?? & by who, if not me?? LOL thanks for the advice :)
 
They only lose respect for a girl if she gives in easily. Dating someone for a year and half without sex is not "easy". Just because it's been long distance doesn't make it any different, it was still a relationship that both of you were committed to. I think now is a great time for it, and he won't think any less of you for it.
If anything I think guys start to think less of a girl who holds out for too long. It may sound mean, but think of it from the guy's point of view.
If he was willing to wait a year and a half to have sex with you, I doubt he'll just up and leave after he gets it. If he was that kind of guy you two wouldn't be in a relationship with each other right now, at least not a trust worthy one.
 
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