Guilty complex.

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Chloe S

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Im having mass amounts of guilt. I feel kinda like Im driving myself crazy...

I think my biggest problem right now is that Im fat. I weigh 215 pounds and I hate it. I work out alot, eat right, and still FUCKING NOTHING is happening. However, looking into working out while breastfeeding I discover that Im maybe poisoning warrick with my milk because Im releasing lactic acid. And also because Im nursing, by dieting and exercising I may be tricking my body into NOT losing weight because it thinks its starving or something. Thats right...by doing the right thing, my body is stoplossing all weight. And then of course the lactic acid is bad for warrick.


So here is where the guilt sets in.

I can either stop nursing and feel horrible because Im not doing the healthiest thing for him. But I can lose weight and feel better about myself.

Or I can stop working out as much and not lose the weight, feel shitty and do the right thing.

Also Im worried because I dont want D coming home to stereotypical fat army wife.

Its really fucking with me because Im very pro breastfeeding. This should be an open and shut case, but its not.

and before anyone tries pointing out the obvious "hey you just had a baby, quit freaking out" I know that. but this is the heaviest Ive ever been and I feel disgusting. Like flat out fucking repulsed.

so yeah...I honestly dont know what I am going to do.
 
Depending on your workout routine, you may be increasing muscle tissue while at the same time decreasing fat cells. Depending on that ratio, you may in fact be losing fat cells but since muscle tissue is more dense, you're weight will not decrease and can actually increase (though you are losing fat cells).

My completely unprofessional recommendation would be to change your exercise routine to be completely aerobic (vs. anaerobic) workouts and maybe take it a little slower. Don't stress about going to the gym and getting all crazy on the stair master machine, instead take long walks a couple times a day and continue to breastfeed.

Long walks is just an example, my point is to just relax and do both things. The weight will come off in time and don't rush it because of unfounded fears regarding what you think D might think.

:hug2:
 
If you do the same routine, your body accommodates and does not progress.

So either up the routine and switch it up occasionally, or enjoy your fat and have some pie. I prefer the latter. At least then you have pie as opposed to some shitty-ass-tasting protein bar and wheat gluten algae shake.
 
That's not entirely true. If I walk the same 5 mile path everyday, my muscles will adjust in the beginning and then plateau as my body adjusts to the task but I will continue to burn calories every time I walk.
 
Honestly it isnt even as much about D as it is about me. All the women in my family got megafat after having kids. With Gage I only got up to 198 while pregnant and the weight came off after. Im paranoid that if I dont nip this fat thing in the bud Im going to blow up. Its probably somewhat of an unhealthy thought process but I think about it constantly.

So far as the muscle/fat thing...Ive been measuring myself and while I did lose a couple inches, when I remeasured I hadnt. If I were seeing a gradual change I wouldnt be as worried but after a month, I should be seeing SOME difference.

Im worried the fatgene got flipped on.
 
Lyn, this is not a situation that you need to nip in the bud. This is not a situation that even has a bud. Just relax. There is plenty of time to take care of yourself and Warrick simultaneously. Perhaps not in the time frame you would prefer but just relax and take it easy on yourself.

:hug2:

P.S. There is no "fat gene" that just gets turned on. Studies have shown that even the elderly make significant changes to their bodies when they exercise.
 
I said it as a "just in case" situation. I know not of your cooking. You need to work on the "bubbly and nice" part, though.

*runs like Hell*
 
in teh kitchen cooking lynn, not in teh sheets cooking...:naughty:

besides you look like you gain in the right places to me:)

tl dr advice : Less weight lifting more cardio
 
v3n: Im not even sure what relaxing means. And honestly Id be happy to lose 20 pounds before march. That isnt that much.

avidity: stfu. I AM NICE. and Bubbly. NER!

eye: shush you. and I like being a curvy woman but I has the belly curves now and that isnt so nice.

and I havent been doing any weight lifting...strictly cardio. I had planned to work in light weight lifting in dec.
 
True, it's not that much which is why you can relax (your mind) and not stress out about losing 20lbs. in 4-5 months.

I'm not saying relax as in do nothing about it, I'm saying relax as in don't stress out about your body not responding in a fashion that you would prefer.
 
I give you sound advice and Avidity gets, not only a visit, not only a visit and margaritas BUT A VISIT, MARGARITAS AND A FUCKING CHEESECAKE!?!?!

I hate all of you! :mfinger:
 
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