Grooms Parents obligation in a wedding?

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My Fiance's mother past away seven years ago and his only has his father who is remarried. He has never really been a supportive father and when ever his children needed somthing they only ever got it because the mother requested(strongly). We would like to ask him if he could pay for the rehersal dinner- thats it nothing fancy just because my parents are already covering dresses and the reception. Is there a way to ask him with out sounding demanding? Also if he does decline do we have to include him on the invitation/programs?
I do't think I am trying to be a "B" or what ever that means. I am just thinking of the fact that so many other people have helped make this day happen like my grooms Ausnt and Godmother have gave generously an he would rather have them anocced on the invites than his father and I think he would be correct in feeling this way.
 
Okay, let me understand this, he's only recognized as the father of the groom on the wedding program if he pays for something.

I wasn't aware that Father of The Groom could be held hostage for cash.

Wow.

Second, there is no 'obligation'.....that makes it sound like 'YOU MUST!' Wedding etiquette states the parents of the groom traditionally pay for the dinner after the wedding rehearsal but it can be simple, there's no need to maake it fancy with many people-should only be members of the bridal party & the parents of the bridal couple.....
...and it's not nesessesary either..just a nice custom. Not a law.

Have your fiance approach his father on it and accept whatever he says...if it's no, then have the rehearsal and afterwards the bridal party go out some where to eat....everyone handles their own bill....in the grand scheme of things, it's not the worst thing that can happen.

But whether dad pays for it or not, he CAN NOT be ignored on the program....very very rude under ANY circumstances and you will by judged harshly be many family members on both sides if you do such a disrespectful thing.

BTW, 'B' means B!tch...and that is how it will come across if you don;t have his name on the program.
 
His financial contribution to the wedding should not determine whether he's on the invite or not. If he's going to attend as the groom's father, then he should be mentioned.

And your fiance should be asking him about the rehearsal dinner. Just come out and ask him!
 
It is not his obligation to pay for the rehearsal dinner or anything for that matter. Couple's are footing their own wedding bills nowadays, so if you want a rehearsal dinner, payfor it yourself or do without out as you have no right to tell other peopel how to spend their own hard earned cash.

His father should be included as he is the father of the groom and of course, should be invited/listed on the program independently of his contribution to the wedding. That's what gracious people do in a family events. Your emotional blacmail/ bratty ways are unbecoming of a lady.

I lov ethe fact that first you are swinging mud his way about how he is not supportive of his children etc. and then you want money out of him?? Is he only good to you as long as he opends his wallet???

Unbelievable.

Good luck
 
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