In Flames etc. = Metal.
Incubus, Finger 11, Chevelle etc. are good, but just good.
There's a British band called Feeder which is awesome. Very popular in England, but I don't think it was even launched in the US, a great pity.
Goo Goo Dolls are pretty good, although they take 4 years to make an album! Switchfoot, Our Lady Peace (were good), 3EB are all good.
But if you want real music, you have to listen to banRAB like Symphony X or Porcupine Tree. That is real music.