Gossip Sucks

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guessgizmo

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Ok, so last night I went to a meeting for RHA. (It's a group I'm in on campus.) So, we're sitting there and we just get reemed about gossip and being mean to each other and what not. :confused: I didn't really know what was going on because I'm not really in the loop. Most of the other execs were friends before RHA and this year and I didn't really know any of them. Also, I live across campus and I'm the lone exec in my complex.

So, today I get an e-mail from one of the other execs. Apparently, the reason we got yelled at is because people are talking shit about me and being really mean to me behind my back and to my face. :eek: I had noticed some of it and assumed some more, but it just really makes me feel like shit to know that people are saying nasty stuff behind my back.

I've decided for now to just limit my time around the other execs to meetings, events, and office hours if I happen to share them with any of the other execs. I'm just going to do my job but not try to be friends with them anymore. I don't want to give them anything else to talk about behind my back. Not intentionally anyway. :ignore:
 
Wow, that sucks, Mags! Yeah I generally stay out of the loop when I can. I don't like being involved but even I can't help but listen to the gossip. There's only one person I ever tell anything to and that's because I trust him and he's even more of a secret keeper than anyone I know. I think it's a good idea to find someone to spill the gossip too if you feel the need to spread something so you don't go telling the wrong person.

I KNOW you aren't the one spreading. in fact you are the one who the gossip's about. That's even worse being on that end of things, which is why it's so important to have your ears open but not be part of the loop. It's happened to me before. That's why if I AM going to talk about another person, it involves me and not their personal and or private information. It's not my place to making shit up or talk about that person behind their back about something I know is personal and secret. I know what it's like to have my personal life spread all over the place. All over my school actually in high school. Rumors within one day of me going to the movies with a guy from my school. I think I was a sophomore and he was a senior at the time. All I did was go to the movies with him and say goodnight. NOTHING else. Well, apparently he wanted to be cool and started telling his friends we did more than that. Somehow, within one day of our date, not only did I somehow become a steady gf, but I also got pregnant, had an abortion, and dumped him for another guy. LOL the rumors I tell ya were the funniest thing, but wow did I have it out at him in the middle of school. I made sure everyone heard it, but I think I bit his head off, chewed it up, and spit it at his feet that day. He probably only said we kissed or something (which we didn't), but the game of operator goes into play and you have a lifetime of rumors and gossip to sift through. That was the last we spoke....was it something I said? :lol:

Believe me, I understand how irritating it is to have gossip spread behind your back. Chin up though. Sounds like you got a good plan to stay away from that bunch as much as you can. Hopefully at least one of them will actually try to get to know you better so they can see how ridiculous their attitude towards you really is. Eitherway, you do your own thing. Don't let them get to you!
 
Personnally, I never trust a gossiper. The more gossip, especially bad mouthing behind someone else's back, I hear out of a person, the lower my esteem drops of that person. I doubt I'm alone on this. If these people do this all the time, noone who knows their own ass from a hole in the ground will put any stock in what they say.
 
I just don't udnerstand what I did for them to be so mean to me. I don't know why they don't like me. I do my job. I'm nice. I just don't understand what the problem is.
 
That is a good decison on your part.

I personally avoid gossipers like the plague. I don't trust 'em and I don't give them anything to talk about.
 
Mags, they probably do it because they can't get up on their own shit. They have too much free time and not enough of a life or enough responsibilities. I hate to use this distastefull term, but it sounds like they lack maturity. Don't get me wrong, I enjoy clowning people as much as the next smartass does. However, I'm not 2-faced about it. I treat my ridicule targets to as much of a shitstorm in person as when they're not around.
Now that have I've used the M word in a statement, I have to go fart in someone's face and give my nieghbor the upper-decker so that I can respect myself again.
 
I always figure if they are talking about me they are leaving someone else alone!

Worked in a factory for 10 years. What a pit of vipers. I used to start gossip about myself to see how long it would take to get back to me. Plus, it kept someone else off the hook.

This usually stems from jealousy, so ignore it, don't let it ruin your days or your life. Just be you, they will move on to someone else eventually, I'm sorry to say.
 
Fuck them, you're a nice person. Just ignore the dumb asses, do your job, and when they look at you, smile nicely.

PS: I have purposely started rumors about myself. Its fun.
 
Never listen to gossip. Its all lies to make often nice people look stupid, when its the people gossip and change stroys that are stupid. Just ignore it and they will soon find some one else to pick on.
 
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