Going through rough patch,me n hubby arguing all the time,?

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Situation been going on for ever it seems, i am so angry with him for no real reason, he the most kindess man ever, i think i have issues from losing our little boy at 23 weeks pregnancy which was 5 years ago and also issues from childhood, sorting myself out now, dealing with guilt i feel for miscarriage and been to docs after feeling i am depressed.
He is living at his brothers due to my constant accusations. he comes to see me n kids everday, tells me he loves me, then he doesn't, he told me 2 weeks ago that there is a woman who he chats to, he has seen her 3 times in as many months, he tells me he has kissed her but nothing more. A proper kiss but he tells me he wasn;'t aroused by it. Apparently she looks like me, i asked why he felt he needed her and he told me he needed to talk to someone as all i do is shout, he says there is and will not be a relationship with her, that it isn't like that and that she was unimportant. I'm worried though that there is more to this than he is admitting, if she wasn't important and meant nothing (which is what he tells me) why did he tell me about her, why did he tell her all about me, he says because he isn't lying to me and that i deserve to know, dont know what to think, opinions plz, so hurt.
Think you got me mixed up with someone else lala, cud u be filiz???, lalalalalalalalalalalal blah blah blah blah
Saying as i very rarely answer sweetie, n your new account filiz only started end of june, i am very suspicious
How many accounts now filiz aka, rita, lala, yasmina, all about mistresses, eh, oh you have cheered me up lol, you gave yourself away about being blocked, didn't i mention in an answer to your questions you kept blocking me, dear oh dear.
You are spot on "1" hun. Ty
 
It sounds like in the midst of your depression and issues with yourself, your hubby is getting a little lost and deprived. If he is such a sweet heart and you are constantly nit picking at him, eventually he is going to walk out. I think it's vital that you get to the core and source of your unhappiness because if you can't or don't love yourself then it is really difficult to love someone else. I highly suggest marital counseling and SOON if he is starting to look on the other side of the fence. It's hard to say how serious he is with this woman... but, it sounds really like she is just a warm body giving him some attention that he needs right now.
I can't imagine the hardship in losing a child.. but if you continue to dwell over the loss of your child then you are going to lose a good husband.... it's time to kind of make a choice... either you focus your energy on being positive about the future and fixing things with your husband or you continue to mourn the loss of your child. Mourning doesnt bring your baby back, but spending that time on your husband could bring him back!!!! I am not telling you to just forget about your lost child... rather, find a way to enjoy life again the way you used to before the excitement of a new child came about. Reliving horrible events in the past will continue to sink you into a deep hole of depression.... but at this point in your life happiness is going to be a choice. You owe it to yourself and your husband to carry on with your short lives on earth and do the best with the gifts, friends and people that you do have. You and hubby should have a heart to heart and I think it's important he knows right now that you want to get better and get past this... if he feels you are hopeless then he is going to give up. He also probably suffers for the loss as well but perhaps talk to him about how he has dealt with it emotionally and maybe you can use some of the tools he has in order to reduce the grieving.
Accusations means that you have insecurity issues, fear he will procreate with someone else or there is a lack of trust in the marriage. If your marriage is going to work you will need to become a team once again and fight these battles with both fists out towards the world and not one another.
I hope you find peace and happiness... again, I am sorry for your loss and your wedding struggles... but remember... you are worth the time and effort to get healthy mentally and physically. If being a mother is what is wearing down on your heart and you feel an emptiness, maybe look into adoption or other options to fill the void.
 
By him telling you that there is someone else not necessarily as a couple i really think he is telling you this to see if there is any reaction in you he probably figures that by telling you this you might just decide to take him back without the shouts and accusations. Let me tell you guys work in mysterious ways, You yourself say that this girl even looks like you maybe its you he really wants but without the yelling. Everybody needs to talk to someone when they feel they have to much inside to handle. You should appreciate the fact that hes telling you about the other cause honestly there are very few men that will actually admit something like this until they get caught. About you past issues you may never forget them but you cant turn back time I believe that what happened in the past should stay in the past, you cant torture yourself over something that you cannot change the only thing left to do is to do your best in living TODAY.
 
oh well s h i t happens, thats what you get for being one of the damn-nastiest answerers on these pages, I've seen how you attack some people here who ask questions, so :

LALA says KARMA...baby :)
 
What he is doing is wrong! He needs to realize he has a wife and a family, this isn't highschool were you take "breaks" and then talk to other woman about your relationship, your marriage. Talking to another woman is NOT gonna fix the problem you guys have now, and he needs to realize that. He needs to talk to you. The advice I'm going to give you is not to yell, talk to him like your husband, the man you love because if you yell, he's going to get aggrevated and he's not going to want to talk about it, keep your cool. You guys need to sit down and have a real heart to heart, let him know what's bothering you, and he will tell you, communication is important, if you sit there and let these things bother you, your gonna wind up taking it out on the wrong person, which it looks like you've done so already. Keep a positive head and talk to him as if nothing were wrong. He will tell you what's bothering him. I don't think he did anything with the other woman, I think he went to her strictly to vent off his pain and frustration, looking for advice, but he needs to come to realization that the only person that is gonna fix the problem is him and you, talking to other people about relationships serves no good, justmore drama. If I were you I'd have him cut the other girl lose and focus on what's important which is the family, good luck
 
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