Goddamned Child Molesters

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So I just got a call literally minutes ago from my girlfriend's mom. To provide a bit of background, when my girlfriend was eleven, two of her friends (and possibly her herself but she hasn't said anything) were molested by her father.
This man is a real piece of work--he was abusive to her mom when they were married, and the day she left him he slammed the door right behind her, very nearly causing my girlfriend to lose her hand. He got joint custody and treated my girlfriend like shit when she went to stay with him. Then the whole molesting thing happened, and she doesn't visit him anymore. She testified against him in court but they decided she was a liar and he got off unpunished.
Now he slacks off on child support and never speaks to her, but has the balls to say "our daughter" when she calls him to ask for money. He has recently voiced a desire to meet me in person so he can beat the shit out of me for being his daughter's boyfriend.
Now to the situation at hand. It came out that one of his victims has started cutting herself. Now, whether she has other problems is beyond my scope of knowledge, but when asked why she did this, she insisted that he'd been touching her. With this development, her parents are trying to have the case re-opened, but of course that's double jeopardy and won't happen.
Anyway I've caused a little bit of damage to my room after mulling over this. What gives? What do we have to do for justice around here? Why should fuckers like him get away with their crimes while their victims have to deal with the consequences for the rest of their lives? Somebody should kill him. I would if I didn't have other things to live for. I'm seriously wishing to become terminally ill, because in all honesty I'm sick of living in a world where this sort of thing is allowed to happen. Thoughts, anyone?
 
Advice? Always from a limited view, from whatever the source, my friend...

You can't 'unring the bell' so the best thing is to try to help repair the damage with an open mind. Be open to the chance that a charge of molestation is a cry for attention for bad treatment alone. Of course including that the possibility that charge is true...(of course not admitting the possibility to her)

All that's left to those on the outside looking in, like yourself, who don't have a chance for legal access, is to help her get in the frame of mind to weather the storm & come out on top.

Keep reminding yourself that adding your emotions to a volatile situation, no matter how righteous, only complicates matters. She's the one going thru this & your support in a calm, logical, caring way is much more important to her than your nitro fueled, emotional (no matter how well placed) reaction could ever be.

I speak from experience...

Good luck
 
Thanks for that, Oz. However, I am fully aware the damage is already done and is irreparable. I have already left it in the hands of others to try and help the girl.
My problem is that he's never going to be punished for being the kind of person that he is. Call me an emo if you want, but hearing about the shitty things people do to one another makes me suicidal. I've never seen myself as any gung-ho fuck-the-law vigilante underground hero, but it seems as if the only way I'll manage to get out of this frame of mind is if someone starts dishing out the kind of painful death that assholes deserve.
 
Death for an asshole like that is too good. Better to keep him alive and torment his mind for as long as possible.

For tasks of such nature, I like to turn to this little 'cookbook' I have that one might use if they were an 'anarchist'. (hint hint)
 
I'm going to open up a little bit here, and confess some things.

I pressed charges on my grandfather for doing that to me. And my uncle. Because, in all honesty, it happened. It really, really did.

But it's strange. Everyone, all my closer family members (besides my mom) abandoned me and called me a liar. Thus, my grandfather moved away unscathed, and my uncle didn't get in any sort of trouble.

People are afraid, to mess up what they know. Something like that is hard to prove. So the justice system often times just fucking gives up. It's sad. But it happens a lot. And they wonder why in the hell most cases go unreported? Because, dammit, they don't do a damn thing!

I'm sorry for your girlfriend and her friends. I really hope that they all can come to some sort of peace with this. Sending warm thoughts. :]
 
If he's done it again since then, it's not double jeopardy. Double jeopardy is protection against being tried for the same crime twice (as in, the exact same one, on April 20th or what have you)...if he's continuing to do this you can (and probably should) attempt to press charges again.
 
It's sad, but unfortunately, justice is a shell of what it's supposed to be. It revolves solely around pay-offs, deals, and double standard rules. If anything ever gets done in our justice system, it takes several years. Sad, but true, Meeps.
 
As a life long martial artist and a Christian, you won't hear me say something like this often, but know I'm serious when I say this. You need to beat this man to within an inch of his life. Make him feel a fraction of the pain he's caused to others. Mainly, meet him so when he tries to kick your ass, you can beat his.
 
Thanks for everything, guys.

Meeps, I can only say that hearing that that happened to you just made me more pissed off. It's the exact same thing that's going on with my girlfriend's family.

Everyone else, we're trying to see if this new development of her self-mutilation will be considered new evidence, but what I mean by "double jeopardy" is that I highly doubt the courts will see it that way.

Ball Masher, you might not be surprised to know that for the last few months I've been working out, shooting skeet, boxing, and collecting knives like there's no tomorrow. He actively wants to meet me, and I can assure you that when we do it will be on my terms. He will not have the opportunity to add "assault" to his myriad of offenses.

Jak, I agree.

Yesrod, you can't "rehabilitate" a child molester. It's a waste of time and money. A cheap, expedient death is the only viable option.
 
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