God damn it I need help again

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janew

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So I thought I was bisexual. No, I'm sure I'm gay now. Great.

I'm not mad at myself for it. I am who I am, I can't change that. I'm mad because I need to tell my parents and friends sometime. And if you want the defenition of homophobe, you needn't look farther than my parents.
I don't know what my friends will think. Sure they make some homophobe jokes sometimes, but they're pretty tolerant nonetheless. I don't think I'll have too much of a problem with that. Maybe I'll lose a few because they don't believe in that. I don't know.
My parents are a completely different story. They never fail to make it known that they aren't fond of homosexuals. From gay jokes to gay bashing, it makes me a bit uncomfortable. I'm just trying to figure out if I should tell them or not. Maybe I'll just wait until I'm out of the house or something, but I need to do it sometime.

Any suggestions on what to do?
 
That would be my suggestion. Although telling your friends has the potential to ultimately get back to your parents so you might want to prepare for that possibility.
 
If your parents can't love you no matter how fucked up they may or may not think you are; they are going to have serious issues when you become an adult and have the ability to do as you will. Be serious with your parents, let them know you are who you are and they should not fault you for being born. Don't worry about your sexual preference. That should be the least of your troubles at such an age. You have the rest of your life to be miserable. Take the time that you now have and enjoy it. Have fun. Be yourself.

Just try not being a moron so often. 8P
 
Yeah, probably.
But I'm still deciding what to do. But I'm certainly going to keep that in mind.

Edit: Damn you for replying a moment before me Geht. :P

I suppose I'll take that into consideration too. It's all great advice guys. Thanks for giving a damn.
 
Good luck homie... but I have to ask...

Have you tried pussy yet? I'm not trying to talk you out of the man love part; be my guest. But if you ain't had the seafood buffet, don't count it out yet. :)
 
It pains me to see kids that have this sort of issue with their parents. You know your parents better than any of us do. You know your friends as well.

I would hate to think that your parents would disown you or make your life hell because you were upfront and honest with them. I don't know. Perhaps feel them out? Try to have a serious conversation with them about it without bringing the hammer down on yourself?

Personally, I would want my child to come to me and tell me. I would hate to think they are going through some thing they feel they can't share with me.
 
lolguy, I kindof forgot how old you are, and atm I'm too lazy to go look on your profile.
When telling your parents and friends, make sure YOU aren't bothered by your sexual preference. If YOU think it's good to be gay, then don't be scared of telling them. It's who YOU are, it doesn't say anything about who or what they are. And hey, maybe one of your friends goes through the same thing, and (s)he decides to come out as well.

And no matter what any person or book might say, being gay doesn't make you any less human, or man. Although I'm not really sure about the 'man'-part.

Honest question, would you be the 'man' or the 'woman', in a relationship?
 
Well this was kinda the case of a guy I know a couple of years back. He was of Asian orgin and he and his parents were Sikh ( or Hindu...I don't quite remember) but also the parents were deeply against homosexuals, they were dead against the idea of it, they thought it was morally wrong. Even at the best of times his parents were quite strict on the poor guy and he hid his sexualy for a long time. When he did eventually tell his parents that he was gay they were shocked to say the least and immediatly dissaproved, however they did come around eventually and accepted him for what he is, took the parents 6 months to accept him. He was also under the same roof as his parents so it was very hard for him, none the less they did eventually accept him for it.

Soo I'd say that telling them upfront would be the best thing, might take the suggestion of being out of the house first. It is going to be a very hard process but I would think they would come around eventually and the guy I knew felt better after telling his parents.
 
:rofl:



When first reading this line, for some reason, I read the last word as "up" ... which gave me a chuckle.



I don't know if this is possible. If his folks are THAT bigoted towards homosexuals, they'll see through it and probably assume it's him.



This is perhaps the most degrading "serious" comment I've ever read on these boards, and (if I were a mod) you'd be gone. Though slightly disguised, it's no different than calling an African the "n" word.

A homosexual man is indeed still a man. He has a cock and balls, so he's a man.



Wtf does that have to do with anything? Why do you care? Are you looking for a date or something? Just how long have you been a blatant homophobe, Mesa?
 
I wouldn't exactly go that far. I mean, millions of Africans were enslaved. I don't know of any gay slaves.... wait...

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It was meant as a touch of humor, to 'lighten up' the conversation a little.
Degrading? Only if lolguy thinks so.



I was only wondering, and it IS a fairly normal question to ask, considering the circumstances, though I can understand if lolguy doesn't want to answer.
And honestly, I have nothing against gay people, but it does sound like you are the homophobe here.

Lolguy, I totally support your decision. Good luck and God bless.
 
Yes, I'm defending a homosexual. So that makes me a homophobe. :rolleyes:

Actually, I believe in individual freedom. So long as it doesn't interfere with or harm another person, you should be able to do it. Period.
 
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