Girlfriend wants to have sex, but i'm too nervous, help!?

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spencer

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Sorry, it's me again. But this situation just gets worse and worse. My girlfriend and I, just had a huge fight, and she has stormed off. She was crying and everything, and now I feel really bad, I never meant to hurt her.

We tried talking about the situation, and that just made things worse. She thinks that i'm not attracted to her, since I won't let her do anything to me, it's not that i'm not attracted to her, she's the most beautifulest girl i've seen. I don't know what my problem is, she's tried everything, she's been really patient, but I guess she just couldn't wait any longer. We couldn't even kiss, without her getting frustrated, and needing to be alone. I've tried to move further on, but it's like as soon as I go to, I lock up, and I can't. It's the same if she tries to do anything to me, I will tense up, and get real nervous. I've asked her to stop when she has started 'touching me' and then she had the most pained look in her eyes.

I just want to be able to make her happy, I don't know how much longer we can continue this relationship, when ever we're around each other, she gets aroused, and I can't do anything to help her. Which is leaving her frustrated. It's the same at night, she can't get to sleep most nights, because we sleep together in the same bed. She's been having erotic dreams, I don't think she knows that I know. But i've woken up in the middle of the night hearing her moan, and it kills me that I can't do anything to help!

What's wrong with me!? I really don't want to lose her, but i'm not sure how much longer she can take this, she said she'll wait as long as I need. But I don't want to have to wait any longer.

Please help me.
 
Man up buddy. Take a deep breath, then dive right in (Literally). If you need to, take your safety blanket with you. Rob's tip of the day: Always obey the green cross code when crossing a busy road.
 
Ok I take it your a guy right? This is very strange most men love making their partners happy, It usual the other way round where the girl usually says no to intercourse rarely the guy. Have you ever made love you haven't been very specific, If you are a virgin you may be nervous because its your first time and you may be worried you won't satisfy her. If she love you making love will feel right no matter what. Try having oral first explore each others body, and tell her you love her
 
Look dude, you need to man up and grow some balls and take her in the back room and just go to town on her man. You don't have to be afraid, it's only pus*y man.
 
You simply aren't ready and that is okay. You have to assure her that it isn't her. Tell her you want to respect her. How long have you been dating?

My rule of thumb, is to get to know someone slowly, first as friends then if desired, dating, then boyfriend and girlfriend. Sex Does NOT define who you are. What happened to getting to know someone for who they are? For me, if you involve the physical part of a relationship, then those feelings get in the way of truly getting to know that person.

Talk to her about how you truly feel, deep down inside. Cuddle instead. Cuddle without kissing. That means more than having sex.

It is a beautiful thing when it is the right time, and preferably when you are married. It doesn't sound like the timing is right for you. Let her know that she is truly a beautiful woman to you and that you want to wait until the time is right. She should not take it personally. When you have this tension on top of it, you are not going to want to do that anyway.

You must have trust, true open and honest communication and God in your life in order to have a real relationship.
 
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