Girlfriend having trouble enjoying sex?

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When we have sex sometimes she enjoys it and sometimes she doesn't. Many times she seems to be having sex because I want to, and I don't want that. She says she just doesn't feel the pleasure. She says it helps when her roommates are gone and we are a bit romantic.
I think she just isn't in the mindset. She's just afraid or doesn't know how to get into it. Like I always have to start her up from nowhere and i'd like for her to into it before i get there. Do any of you have this problem? What are your recommendations, because i want max enjoyability for both of us, rather than just me.
 
Well I think it's more difficult for females to let lose and really let GO if they think about someone in the next room, someone hearing them, any distractions that might hold them BACK - a woman can and will let that interfer during sex. Remember we women THINK THINK and over think most things, we are emotional, dramatic, worry & fret about every little thing and even those things we shouldn't think about and can't do anything to change!

SO with that in mind - if you TRULY want to help HER enjoy your intimacy together then PUT HER IN A PLACE where she CAN feel FREE TO do so. Heck most men could get aroused and have sex in a garbage can - women NEED the effort, creativity and romance towards them and their needs - they need the foreplay, the attention, the recognition, the many other things that accompany good or even GREAT SEX. If you aren't willing to do some WORK why would she want to for you? THIS is supposed to be a mutually satisfying thing - so DO YOUR PART so that she can and wants to do hers!
 
well 75% of women cant get an orgasism during sex without a toy anyways, but try to cater her. what i mean when i say cater is try all sorts of stuff but do not get urs, ask her if she likes it, tell her she is sexy, tell her you want her. Make it all about her. She might just feel like you want to get urs and thats a turn off. You might not even care about getting urs but most women think like that. Don't give up. She just might not have found her G spot yet so you can help her. Dont be afraid to use ur hands or mouth (hehe). consider her body a foreign land and you are christopher columbus. Discover her.
 
i've been experiencing the same thing with me and my boyfriend.
my problem is that its doesn't mean as much to me because its so often. like now that i'm at school its harder to be intimate when you have no idea when you're roommate might walk in or if the people in the room next to you are listening.

if you guys have been doing it frequently just stop for awhile. Show that you don't need sex to enjoy her company. Or just take her out a lil more going on dates is a great change of scenery from the seeing the campus everyday.
 
maybe you should wait till her roomates are really gone. and do really romantic cute things for her (:
 
Obviously if she is not in the mood then she will not enjoy it, and as you say if you are a bit more romantic then she enjoys it more. The obvious solution is to keep the romance going and never let her feel like you are just after the sex.

You catch more bees with honey ;-p
 
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