getting pregnant with genital herpes and your relationship

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I just recently found out that I have Genital Herpes after some rash appeared in my genital area.My concern is the effect this will have on our sex life (as its/was an active one).We have been in a monogamous relationship and neither of us ever/cared to use protection.I am a health nut so I have always made it my duty for us to get tested,so how could I have not known I had genital herpes.
I am scared.I am more petrified though about how this will affect my relationship with my boyfriend as he didn't seem to accept the news of my diagnosis too well.
He wanted so much to be a dad and I want more than anything for us to have kids.
Is it safe for me to try and have a baby when I have this decease?
Its day 2 of my diagnosis and I'm in panic mode.I would love for us to make babies the old fashion way,but is that possible?
 
Have you ever had a relationship before this gentleman? Has he ever had any relationships other than you? That is how you could have gotten it. The virus can lay dormant for years before you experience an outbreak, if ever. So it could have come from who knows where.

If you can get over this and do at some time have a child, you would need to see an OB/GYN who specializes in this so you can protect the little one.

good luck!
 
It is not unusual for people to have HSV II and not know it. You may have acquired it a long time ago and now (usually due to stress) you are having an outbreak. There is no medical reason why you cannot have children. Your baby can only become infected and have issue with herpes if you are having an outbreak when you are delivering your baby. Just tell your GYN what is up so that they can monitor you prior to the delivery. Many women have multiple successful deliveries who have herpes. Please don't freak out. Has your boyfriend been tested? If he is negative for HSV II you can protect him by using a viral suppressant drug such as Valtrex. The big thing is to figure out what happens to you when you have an outbreak and don't have sex during one. He is at risk if you have an outbreak and are having unprotected sex. Occasionally, but rarely, you can pass along the virus without an outbreak. See your health care professional about exact details. Hang in there you are going to be fine and a super mom someday.
 
Thank you so much DC LFG .All day I have been going around like a zombie and it feels as though someone sucked the life out of me.I guess with time I'll be able to accept this decease.
I know you have a lot of knowledge about this decease;however I'm not sure if you're speaking from experience.Why I say this is,I feel very awkward now interacting with my boyfriend.I have this weight of guilt ,but i have never cheated on him.I find myself periodically crying ever since I found out.
Did you experience that and how did you get through it?
 
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