Gay men/teens..how many times did you deny your sexuality?

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Carol x

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My friends son is gay (we think). I know this has nothing to do with me, but my friend & I spoke about it & when she finally decided that she wanted to talk to him about it & get it 'out there'! He denied it. She still feels that he is gay, but is aware that he is only 15yrs & is probably struggling alot with accepting this himself.
My friend is not going to pursue it anymore... she has told him what she believes, its 'out there' & now, hopefully, when he feels ready, he will talk to her.
Although there is the possibility that he indeed is NOT gay, there appears to be too many signs that indicate otherwise & I'm not talking about 'jazz hands' & 'being camp'!
He is good looking, intelligent & every image of the hetrosexual boy....with some exceptions.

However, I was wondering how many times on average do gay teens, deny their sexuality before 'coming out'?
 
Sexuality is very crazy thing, some young boys are gay, and some straight and some are in between. I personally believe that it’s up to the individual to come out. I have some guy friends who are bi but they don't want people to know because they don't want people to think they are gay. not that they think being gay is wrong, but they also like girls, and they feel that once a girl knows that they have or are attracted to men as well as women, they automatically think that they are gay, straight up homosexual, when they aren't. Then again, there are some people who use the bi orientation as a cover up which to me personally is wrong. It makes others who truly are bisexual look like fakers or hiders, when really we are who we are. It takes away the whole legit bisexual orientation thing. Now he could be gay, but there are probably chances that he may be bi and you must realize that this is a normal sexual orientation as well. There is nothing wrong with being gay or bi, you are who you are! my mom asked me if i was gay and i said no, mainly because i wasn't, i was bi, but i would have never ever told her that because though she is alright with gay and lesbian people, she hates bis thinks their gross or just plain old liars! maybe you and your friend can both get educated on what to do and educated the young boy on what it truly means to be gay or bi, that way, he doesn't feel like he has to hide who he is whither that would be gay or bi. Just a thought!
 
I have this very same issue with my best friend. It's gotten so intense that I have personally addressed her about it, and she completely and totally denied it. I do not believe her one bit that she is not (details of our 'relationship', if you care to read: http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=Ah..idN6Grfv3Qn_yIh7.xXsy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20110605183151AAX7RHC). Everything she does leads me to believe she is definitely some sort of sexuality, definitely not "straight," whatever it is. So yes your son's friend might just be "gay." In my experience they are in complete denial, so this might just be a stage of his "coming out." If he is of a different orientation than straight, you will hopefully know soon, as if he is he would be coming out eventually. hope this helps!! (: Emmy
 
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