Helloooo nurse
New member
...about people? My friend's new boyfriend seems to be someone who seems to be "opinionated", especially when it comes to me. I don't know if it's because he's insecure, doesn't like me, or tends to be "bored" w. life. My friend wanted our friend and I to just "meet" him. He ended up liking her and now, they're dating and I'm happy for them. He did tell my friend that i'm just "too quiet" but if i'm mistaken, when i did try to talk to him, he was "too captivated" w. my friend...they were very into each other right away. His friend, however liked me but after spending a whole football game w. him, I just knew he wasn't my type. My friend tried to set me up with him but I politely declined and I think both of them were taken a back by it. I'm cordial w. my friend's new boyfriend but he always tells me, "why are you so quiet?" and it bugs me bc it's just so ignorant and makes it feel as if I'm responsible for creating our convo I'll say "hi" to him but if I don't feel "natural" or "comfortable" talking to anyone then I won't force it; as long as I say "hi" and try small talk. This is the 2nd time seeing the guy too.
I have a feeling because i'm so "quiet" with him, he thinks i'm snobby, which isn't the case. It's human nature to naturally be comfy with some and vice versa. At another dinner party, I walked by and again said, "why are you always so quiet?" He laughed at me also when someone was making fun of me. And he tends to create more the (already present) tension i'm having w. a friend by making comments like, "oh a study group on a saturday night? that's weird..." Catty, much? And like what they say, if people talk about others, they'll most likely talk about you. At this point, i'm not bothered by people talking smack because it's just a way of life... it's disappointing but it doesn't hurt me as much anymore. I do admit, it's emotionally draining and sometimes, I wanna be a little girl and cry and want them to be punished but I have to be strong and remain level headed but it's so hard but believe me, i'm trying. They say "what goes around, comes around" and if you're religious, God punishes those who do you wrong; let him take care of it. I guess i"m surprised that there's a possibility guys do talk about others badly, like girls... encouragement?
I have a feeling because i'm so "quiet" with him, he thinks i'm snobby, which isn't the case. It's human nature to naturally be comfy with some and vice versa. At another dinner party, I walked by and again said, "why are you always so quiet?" He laughed at me also when someone was making fun of me. And he tends to create more the (already present) tension i'm having w. a friend by making comments like, "oh a study group on a saturday night? that's weird..." Catty, much? And like what they say, if people talk about others, they'll most likely talk about you. At this point, i'm not bothered by people talking smack because it's just a way of life... it's disappointing but it doesn't hurt me as much anymore. I do admit, it's emotionally draining and sometimes, I wanna be a little girl and cry and want them to be punished but I have to be strong and remain level headed but it's so hard but believe me, i'm trying. They say "what goes around, comes around" and if you're religious, God punishes those who do you wrong; let him take care of it. I guess i"m surprised that there's a possibility guys do talk about others badly, like girls... encouragement?