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tell her otherwise? I'm getting married at the end of the year and my fiance is currently out of town with no access to phone, internet, etc. so no one will be able to get in touch with him for the next month. I'm trying to plan certain things without his help (i.e. getting my dress, planning flowers, etc.) but his mother is trying to get me to commit to all these things I don't want. She wants us to have a huge wedding with a ton of people I've never met before, and it seems like she just wants to show off her amazing son in some big society wedding. My fiance and I come from different religious backgrounds and his mother is pushing me into having a full-on Catholic ceremony, which my family and I are against. My fiance doesn't care if we have a Catholic ceremony or not, but his mother has all but reserved the cathedral. I've told her that I don't want to commit to any major decisions like this until my fiance gets back in town, but she keeps on pushing all these things on me anyway.
My parents are paying for the wedding, BTW.
Our ideal wedding would be simple and fun, and include immediate family and close friends only, but my fiance comes from a high-society family in our community.
How can I politely tell my mother in law to back off and let us plan our own wedding, and that we don't want a giant formal affair with tons of people we hardly know? And what should we do about the relgious-ceremony aspect? Is it better to just let them have their way or to go with what my family and I want?
My parents are paying for the wedding, BTW.
Our ideal wedding would be simple and fun, and include immediate family and close friends only, but my fiance comes from a high-society family in our community.
How can I politely tell my mother in law to back off and let us plan our own wedding, and that we don't want a giant formal affair with tons of people we hardly know? And what should we do about the relgious-ceremony aspect? Is it better to just let them have their way or to go with what my family and I want?