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Serena Elizabeth G

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I was backing out of my driveway today and I was in a huge hurry to get to school in fear that I'd be late...and I backed right into a truck. And I mean pretty damn hard...enough to crinkle his car and put a nice red stripe on it...meanwhile my tank of a Volvo is in fine condition with barely any noticeable scratches. I'm fucking pissed.

My dad and I argued a lot the other day and this is just more fuel to the fire...first we stop talking to each other for a while and now the only thing he'll probably have to say is that I'm a dumbass for not paying attention to the road. When I got home tonight it was kinda late and he said, "All I have to say to you is maybe you'll learn some sort of lesson from this and you'll be more careful. And I guess that's all. Goodnight."

I didn't even get an "I love you" back from him...which kinda made me feel like shit because not only did we not get along in the beginning of the week...now I have to pay $250 for that retarded move of mine and he's probably livid right now even though it happened this morning.

I felt like crying all day today...as lame as that sounds...it just fucked things up even worse than they really needed to be...and I have no clue how to fix it.
 
Angry bro, calm down a little man.

My dad and me had a very similiar situation when I was about 18. You need to understand that right now, he loves you. He may hate some of the (dumbass as you stated) things you're doing right now, but I'm more than sure he loves you. I take it from the way you were talking that "he" is actually the one that has to pay for the $250 fix-up. Money is ALWAYS a sensitive subject with parents (whether they're renting in a trailer park, or a IPO owner with a mansion), so don't take it too seriously.

Just take your lumps for now, quit arguing with your dad for a little while and I'm sure all (well most), will get better soon.
 
I appreciate it man. Well I mean the damage that was done to the truck...I have no clue how much will cost. I'm only paying the deductible from the insurance, which is $250. I guess I'm really just upset over the fact that it happened, and how easy it would have been for me to prevent it ever happening if I had just payed attention and not backed right into it.

I dunno we just don't get along anymore and it sucks. The last argument we had basically led him to thinking that I didn't want to talk to him anymore...really what I was saying was I just wanted to be left alone sometimes but he always takes things like that personally. So naturally we have been on shaky footing and this just kind of took the ground out beneath us. I just wish there was something I could say to calm him down or at least make him stop being so angry(even though he has a right to be) and at least tell me that he still cares about me.
 
Man look, you're dad is butthurt from the argument and the truck thing only helped elevate it. Like I said you need to chill a bit for now. And when he seems a bit calmer about things (I know how it seems like it's going to be never), talk to him about things and apologize for coming off so rudely. I'm sure that you two could find a way to be mature enough to come to a mutual understanding without butting heads again.
 
Don't know if this works with parents, but you might just go to him tomorrow when he's not busy with something else, look straight in his eyes and say something like, "I'm sorry. I messed up. I was concentrating on something else and didn't pay enough attention to my driving. I've learned what can happen." Now, this might be awkward, and there's no certainty how he will respond, but it shows maturity, your acceptance of responsibility, and a willingness to talk with him.

Until we reach that near impossible state of perfection (like Mary Poppins - practically perfect in every way), everyone messes up now and again. The important thing is to learn from it.
 
Not to try to trivialize what happened to you or anything, but 250 bucks isn't so bad. Yeah, tension with your dad sucks, but the car thing could be worse. Here in PR, it's not mandatory that you have auto insurance. I let mine go because I was going through financial dificulties. I got into an accident last week, and I have to pay the dude for the full cost of the repairs. He's taking it easy on me and only charging me for the parts, because he's doing the work himself, but it's going to cost me $775. Let alone what it will cost to repair MY car, which I am not able to drive until I can get it fixed, and since I don't make alot of money right now, I have to wait until I'm done paying this guy's car off before I even go get an estimate on mine, but it will probably be at least another 500 buckaroos. Fuck, I miss my volvo. swedish tanks are practically indestructible.

As for the dad thing, I'm sure he loves you, and he'll get over it in time. My dad and I have had a shaky past, but get along fine now despite all the stupid fuckups I've made in my life.
 
Damn man. Accidents of any kind blow, and can totally fuck with your day. I've gotten into a couple in my life time, some serious that my passengers needed to be taken to the hospital. Fucked up shit.

Just yesterday, I was making a left, but my line of sight was greatly impaired by other cars parked on the road. I almost pulled out right into an SUV coming down the road. Her tires screeched as she came to a halt, about 2 or 3 feet from me. I was like, "SHIT! I'm sorry!" LOL. That dumb bitch.
 
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