Fuck Suicide..-NEEDS advice-

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HulaForever

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Alright, first off I would like to say-Sorry that I haven't been on here in forever. I really need advice right now.

My friend Brittany posted something like "I'm sick of the tears..blah blah blah I'm ending it all" crap on myspace the other day. I tried chatting with her, calming her down...(I know her in real life) and then the last thing she sent me was "Good bye". I got worried, called up my friend that lives near her and told her to wait outside and something was going down..(She was the only one that knew where brittany lived). Then I called my bf', snuck out of my house, he picked me and another concenerd friend that lived near by and we went to my friends house that lived near her. All in all we ended up going to Brittanys house talking with her grandparents (they almost called the cops because it was like 2 in the morning). They said she was fine. Next day I IM her because I saw she was online. Ends up it was her brother and he explained to me Brittany was in the hospital from trying to Overdose...


She got out of the hospital. Then less then 3 days later, my friend "Blood" was dating this chick Lisa who had tried to kill herself earlier in the school year (i got help for her) and Blood broke up with her. She lost it tried overdosing but they found her and took her to the hospital. I don't know if she is out yet.

Now Brittany is trying to push everyone and anyone away, trying to isolate herself and I think she's loosing it even more. I think she might try to kill herself again .What should I do? How am I suppose to help my friend that's pushing me and others away? Also-What should I do about Lisa when she gets out and back from the hospital? I mean-Should I talk to her about her actions? What I think? What should I tell her? How am I suppose to explain to her brother that it wasn't Blood's fault that Lisa tried to kill herself? Help?!
 
you're probably not going to like what I have to say, but there's only so much you can do to help a person before they need to help themselves. Try letting her know that if she continues her behavior that you're not going to be a part of it anymore because she is being selfish. Suicide is very selfish because the people who are trying to end their life don't consider how other people would feel about it, or how much it would hurt other people to find out they have died. And if she gets mad at you then that's good. Because that means she has acknowledged that you have a point, she just doesn't want to accept it.

On another note, Why the hell do people always try to OD? It's the pussy way out. If someone really wanted to end it, no questions asked, they'd do something drastic, like jump off of a building or shoot themselves. I think this is just a serious cry for attention and showing her that she is only going to alienate herself even more might force her into getting help.
 
I'm not a trained professional or really experience in these matters so take my post at face value, in other words this is just what I would (or what I think I would do) do in the given situation. Take it or leave it. It's up to you.

A. I'm not going to lie, all that shit suck and I feel for your and your friends.

B. I hate to sound like an ass, but as far as I know you not a trained professional either, your a friend. and as a friend I'm not sure if its you place to explain anything to anyone. I think your job in all this is to stay strong thew these hard times and be there for your friends when they need you. Other than that I'm not sure what else you can do. This isn't your issue to work out, it's your friends. And as much as you feel the need to do something, I don't think its your place.

I know I may sound like an ass when i say this, but like a said before. This is just what I think/would do. Take it or leave it. But I do think that your job in all this is to be the friend, that shoulder to cry on. So I wish you and your friends good luck, and if you ever need anything more I'm here for ya.
 
;788147']I almost called "bullshit and natural selection" on this, but then I read further.

Dude- take it from my experience... If you gotta kill someone, don't let it be you. No human being is worth ending things over. I've witnessed the nightmare of death firsthand in several different ways. It's not good, any way it happens.

Your friend needs some serious attention, to say the least. Give love, encouragement, and companionship.

Holy shit. I said something nice...

Okay, I wanna eat Paris Hilton's spleen in front of kindergarten children. There.
 
your friend is obviously trying to fill some sort of attention hole and isn't doing a very good job of it. To some extent you always want to let a friend in this situation know that you'll be there, but you also need to realize how fast you yoruself can get sucked into this kind of shit. Not to sound insensitive...but you have to look out for you first, b/c in the end that's the only thing you really have control over.
 
how the fuck does looking our for herself have anything to do with it? Are you insinuating that she's going to get trigger happy and pull a Thelma and Louise on us if she gives her friend any attention? I agreed with everything you said up until that last statement. People don't get sucked into drama unless they want to be.
 
I'm not insinuating anything. Merely commenting on the need to avoid a pattern I've seen before. When stuff like this happens in a close group of friends it can tend to snowball.
 
Your friends sound like attention whores. Most people know how difficult it is to actually kill yourself through an overdose, especially with household medicine. And they also realize a fuax suicide attempt will get them a lot more attention then just acting suicidal. Sorry, but to me, the saying "good bye" on msn and the OD 'attempts' just seems like a cry for attention. People who genuinely want to kill themselves rarely fail.

But still, people who attempt suicide, even without the intention of actually killing themselves, need help. Not drugs, but some therapy.

But that's just my opinion - no advice.
 
Alright, what I'm going to try to do with brittany is be there for her and try to keep an eye on her. If she tries to kill herself again, make a quick decision on what to do at that moment. But for now I shall be friends with her and be there for her the best I can be.

With Lisa I am going to do the same. Thanks for that guys, I really needed to hear some of that
 
You need to contact the school nurse, counselor, parents, pastor, police. This is not your responsibility and you are not adequately trained to handle the issue. I suggest you contact authorities.
 
;788249']DG's right. If the girl wants to hurt herself, these are the people to contact. If she's bullshitting, it will embarass her to the point of never trying this again.
 
WTF Sari where have you been all this time?!

Anyways...definitely get help for your friend Brittany, and I mean something like what DG is talking about; professional help that is trained to deal with teenagers and such.

It may seem like a good idea for you to try and step in and tell her that everything is going to be okay but for some strange reason she is probably being reminded of why she tried to kill herself in the first place when you try to step in. Not that I'm saying you were the impetus for the original incident, I'm just saying that it sounds like she spoke to you last, and so if you talk to her about the whole suicide thing she'll just remember that night and think back to trying it again.
 
Well, I have actually dealt with a few suicidal girls in the recent past..my ex girlfriend and one of my good friends. My advice, like a lot of the other people, is to get her help without talking to her about it. If you do either she will attempt to kill herself before she gets help, or will just say your bullshitting and it's all a lie.

No offense, but these girls sound like attention whores. Not to rant, but they sound like my ex girlfriend. She tried the overdosing shit, and it really hurts. I feel for you.

Also, if you really want to help them, just tell them your always there for them and that everything will be ok. Then get them help.
 
I know I shouldn't be laughing at that because its the right thing to do but I just had this mental picture:

Me: "Don't worry, I'm here for you. Everything will be okay."
Random suicidal friend: "Ok...dude I really appreciate it. I dunno what I'd do without you. Thank God I'm not being taken away to some sort of mental hospital or something..."

Me: [awkward pause] "Yeah...about that..."
[cue men in white jackets jumping out of the bushes with syringes

Me: "Take 'em away, boys!"
 
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