Enigmatic Poet
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(Just to say, I am just giving my experiences on friendships with what I have been faced with or have seen from other friends, so this isn't something that I would consider "universal" to say since people experience different things in friendships).
I been wondering what friendships are these days since a lot of people end friendships out of the blue. Now, I can understand ending friendships that occur when a person is disrespectful, backstabs you, uses you for their own selfish reasons, lies constantly to the point where you don't even know if they are real to you, etc. I can understand those friendships need to be ended.
But what I am getting at are the friendships that people end when the friendship is a healthy and great relationship. Why would you want to end a friendship that is something great? I see that people have ended friendships due to distance, making new friends and just throwing old friendships away due to meeting new people, having a bf/gf and just end friendships because of relationships, etc. The one word I hate people using is the word "outgrow" in relationships. I never can get myself to understand that. How can you outgrow in a relationship when the relationship was great to begin with? How can you grow more than a person in a friendship? Everyone is growing everyday, you aren't growing faster than this person with what you're experiencing or with the new friends you're meeting. How can you outgrow something when you both are still growing? It saddens me when people end friendships for reasons that don't need to exist. I always think to myself with people giving reasons in ending a friendship and such. If you feel like something is feeling like a rough patch or things seem more quiet in the friendship, what happened to talking to the friend about it? Communication? Communication is also a key to friendships since that is the greatest tool to keep things alive, but feels like people don't want to try and keep the communication going since they give up so easily when it is so easy to begin with. Or just don't want to put the effort; yes, friendships require effort. If they didn't, than how can you call someone a friend who just sees the shell of you when they don't even know that much about you or see the passion you have to keep the friendship going?
Feels like friendships don't mean anything anymore these days, even the meaning of a friend gets thrown around these days without people actually knowing what a friend is. People get sad that they miss the friend they use to have and such, well you need to communicate and give forth effort in a friendship. Nothing comes easy, not even friendships since people can use that as a tool for their selfish needs. If you have a great friendship, why turn the tables and end it with the snap of a finger? Feels like people don't want to use their own hands to keep building a friendship since people want everything to be done fast and just don't want to waste time. Friendships to me are suppose to have time, but seems like no one wants time anymore. What's your opinion on this?
I been wondering what friendships are these days since a lot of people end friendships out of the blue. Now, I can understand ending friendships that occur when a person is disrespectful, backstabs you, uses you for their own selfish reasons, lies constantly to the point where you don't even know if they are real to you, etc. I can understand those friendships need to be ended.
But what I am getting at are the friendships that people end when the friendship is a healthy and great relationship. Why would you want to end a friendship that is something great? I see that people have ended friendships due to distance, making new friends and just throwing old friendships away due to meeting new people, having a bf/gf and just end friendships because of relationships, etc. The one word I hate people using is the word "outgrow" in relationships. I never can get myself to understand that. How can you outgrow in a relationship when the relationship was great to begin with? How can you grow more than a person in a friendship? Everyone is growing everyday, you aren't growing faster than this person with what you're experiencing or with the new friends you're meeting. How can you outgrow something when you both are still growing? It saddens me when people end friendships for reasons that don't need to exist. I always think to myself with people giving reasons in ending a friendship and such. If you feel like something is feeling like a rough patch or things seem more quiet in the friendship, what happened to talking to the friend about it? Communication? Communication is also a key to friendships since that is the greatest tool to keep things alive, but feels like people don't want to try and keep the communication going since they give up so easily when it is so easy to begin with. Or just don't want to put the effort; yes, friendships require effort. If they didn't, than how can you call someone a friend who just sees the shell of you when they don't even know that much about you or see the passion you have to keep the friendship going?
Feels like friendships don't mean anything anymore these days, even the meaning of a friend gets thrown around these days without people actually knowing what a friend is. People get sad that they miss the friend they use to have and such, well you need to communicate and give forth effort in a friendship. Nothing comes easy, not even friendships since people can use that as a tool for their selfish needs. If you have a great friendship, why turn the tables and end it with the snap of a finger? Feels like people don't want to use their own hands to keep building a friendship since people want everything to be done fast and just don't want to waste time. Friendships to me are suppose to have time, but seems like no one wants time anymore. What's your opinion on this?