For those in the know: my ex and I discussed my 9 year old living w/him and we're both

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on the same page now;? he wants to stay w/me and we'll re-evaluate things as he gets older. I did just find out though that his step-mom is going to have her first baby. I don't want him to not know his baby brother/sister so what can we do (aside from his weekends w/his dad) to ensure they are close? I'd love to have him/her come over and play once that's feasible but in the mean time.....
Thanks for the ideas,guys! His Dad can see him when every he wants, it's just that during the school year, a 40 minute drive on a school night doesn't always work well. That's so great that you babysat for her, if they were closer, that'd definitely be something I'd consider!
 
You have to be realistic. He's nine. His half-sibling will be a newborn. They don't live in the same home. They are not going to be close.
 
This is rough; we have a baby too and my stepson is only here on the weekends to be with him. We decided to take our stepson during the weekdays for the summer, so he'll get to be around more. Also during the week we'll drive down sometimes (he lives a little over an hour away) and we'll have dinner with him or go to his school events. That's about all we can do right now. But I feel you. I really want the boys to grow up knowing each other well. I have a half sister myself and rarely got to see her because our dad and her mom just didn't get along.

The mother of my stepson has offered to take our child to her house sometimes too, I'm not sure yet how I feel about that but it's certainly an option for someday in the future.
 
he can spend school holidays at his dad's too and invite them(step mom and baby) over for lunch/dinner a few times
 
Awesome news on all fronts!
I used to babysit my ex's "new" baby (my goodness, he's almost 5 years old now), and it was such an honor to me that my ex and his girlfriend asked me to. And our daughter together used to love coming home to her little brother.
Is your son excited? If he is, the only thing that I can suggest is to have him write a little about his feelings from time to time, so he can give it to his baby brother/sister (care of Dad and step-mama, of course) for a keepsake.
And does your ex have middle of the week visitation? That could be some extra bonding time as well.
At any rate, let me tell you again that I admire you for making this extended family work for all involved!
 
Awesome news on all fronts!
I used to babysit my ex's "new" baby (my goodness, he's almost 5 years old now), and it was such an honor to me that my ex and his girlfriend asked me to. And our daughter together used to love coming home to her little brother.
Is your son excited? If he is, the only thing that I can suggest is to have him write a little about his feelings from time to time, so he can give it to his baby brother/sister (care of Dad and step-mama, of course) for a keepsake.
And does your ex have middle of the week visitation? That could be some extra bonding time as well.
At any rate, let me tell you again that I admire you for making this extended family work for all involved!
 
I"m not in the "know" but it seems like you have a great relationship with these people. I would suggest you talk to your son about having a new baby brother or sister.. Remember that he's going to be jealous at first and that it's completely normal, maybe set up dates where you could take your son to see them for a couple of hours during a day during the week once the baby is born, take him to see the baby when it's born, and get him a special little something that gives him pride in being a new "older" brother!
 
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