For love or financial stability?

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Hi I have been in a relationship for a few years. We were recently separated. There is talk about us getting back together, but I have major reservations about his capacity for financial responsibility. He has to borrow money here and there to cover his payments from me "cause I am the only one with credit" though he has been working on his credit and it is improving, he now wants to have a child. I do not see how we can afford a child as we rent and live pay check to pay check. I do love this guy very much. He is a good person. I just don't want to be the one carrying us financially when I make less money...it just seems like we never get ahead. I am very comfortable with him, this has been my longest relationship by far. I just can't decide if I should keep plugging along and hope things get better, or face being single and starting over again at over 30! I know that finances can cause alot of problems in marrages. Just looking for random imput! Thanks :)
I Just don't remember how to date anymore! Its not a bad thing to start over again at 30. I just have no idea how to meet people.
 
i wonder why he's financially irresponsible. maybe he doesn't know how to handle his finances right? maybe he doesn't understand the payments, or he's disorganized and/or forgetful?

try going to MSN money (google it) and look it up, there was an article about that somewhere and it was really helpful. sorry i don't remember the exact title. but there's plenty of really good stuff there.

but i gotta say, this will be a hard problem to deal with, but if you are both 100% committed to making it work, then you can do it. but you may have to be the one that handles the finances. make a budget together so that you aren't the one paying for everything, and you have some ability to help make sure his money goes where it should (shared bills, rent, savings, future child funds, etc.).
 
i wonder why he's financially irresponsible. maybe he doesn't know how to handle his finances right? maybe he doesn't understand the payments, or he's disorganized and/or forgetful?

try going to MSN money (google it) and look it up, there was an article about that somewhere and it was really helpful. sorry i don't remember the exact title. but there's plenty of really good stuff there.

but i gotta say, this will be a hard problem to deal with, but if you are both 100% committed to making it work, then you can do it. but you may have to be the one that handles the finances. make a budget together so that you aren't the one paying for everything, and you have some ability to help make sure his money goes where it should (shared bills, rent, savings, future child funds, etc.).
 
i wonder why he's financially irresponsible. maybe he doesn't know how to handle his finances right? maybe he doesn't understand the payments, or he's disorganized and/or forgetful?

try going to MSN money (google it) and look it up, there was an article about that somewhere and it was really helpful. sorry i don't remember the exact title. but there's plenty of really good stuff there.

but i gotta say, this will be a hard problem to deal with, but if you are both 100% committed to making it work, then you can do it. but you may have to be the one that handles the finances. make a budget together so that you aren't the one paying for everything, and you have some ability to help make sure his money goes where it should (shared bills, rent, savings, future child funds, etc.).
 
Financial security.

love comes and goes like Quad-season of the year.

And that's reality!
 
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