first date sex. Ruin POSSIBILITY of futurre relationship?

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Jill R

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I HAVE A PROBLEM!!! I just had my first, first date sex Last night I had an amazing date with this wonderful guy, I mean amazing everything was perfect, I felt such a powerful attraction to him we went to have sushi and really enjoyed ourselves there and then went to a bar afterwards the we went back to his place and things were hot and heavy for about 2 hours then I decided to go fool around in the bedroom, he got up for something so I surprised him being naked when he came back and we obviously had sex, he was very sweet and constantly kissed me while having sex with him. I then slept over and then we woke up this morning and it was nice just laying there talking, then we went to breakfast then we had to go our separate ways. He hasn't called me, will he? or did I ruin my chances? And when is he going to call since he hasn't tonight...
PLUS! He was holding my hand, calling me baby and kissing my forehead, holding my hand in bed. VERY SWEET
 
He might be afraid you were just after a one night stand. You can try calling him, you know. Don't sound desperate if you get his voicemail, just say you had a wonderful time, and would like to see him again sometime.

If he was kissing on you the whole time, that doesn't sound to me like he was just after sex. I always figured guys just after sex do their thing and move on.

Try not to stress yourself about it, and whatever you do, don't call him repeatedly, 'cause that'll scare him. But don't wait several days for him to call you, either, because he might be terrified of calling you, and might think YOU aren't interested in HIM.
 
Hmm...well since he was really sweet about it,
he's obviously a nice guy
So don't worry, he'll probably call,
he's probably just busy.
Don't worry(:
 
first of all i do not see why women try to be so damn old fashioned when we have come so far to be just like the guys. what im tryna say is there is rule saying the guy has to call us first. if you wonder why he hasnt called. stop. wonder why you sit waiting when you can be calling him.
2nd maybe he is asking the same questions. i dont think it is yahoo answers that you need to be asking this to. maybe dont ask the guy have i ruined my chance at being your gf, but just let him know you are feeling wierd about lastnight because you have never had first date sex before. i have a feeling that maybe he could be just as worried about this as you. communication will answer oyur questions better than we can
 
I'm sorry, but no matter how wonderful you think it was, that was not the best thing At All to do on a first date. I'm a Christian and personally, you should have waited till you got married or at LEAST until you knew him better. Now you don't know, and he may have another awesome night with another awesome girl tomorrow. I don't know. Maybe he's the kind of guy who LIKES stuff like that, but I'm telling you. More than seven eighths of couples end up ruining there relationship with stuff like that. You should have waited.
But, hey, live and learn right?
God bless you!
 
I have never done this, I would call him, and say very bluntly,
"Have a ruined my chances with you? Have I lost your respect? I am not usually like that, but you are so sweet, and I liked you?"
 
id wait for him to call and if he doesnt in 2 days i would call him. something might have came up. i would check in on him. its a possibility that it could have been just a one night thing. but u never know he might have felt the connection too. good luck!
 
Never a good way to start things off.

Right now he is trying to figure out what the heck happened. Are you a slut, is he himself feeling like a slut. Were you using him, was he using you. All kinds of not so fun questions, and he is gonna feel weird at best, about the whole situation. You should not wait for him to call you if you are interested him. If you know you are interested, you should make sure he knows where you're at, it'll take some of the pressure off of him.
 
HE MAY BE WAITING FOR YOU TO CALL OR HE MAY THINK YOUR EASY (SORRY).OR HE MAY CALL GIVE IT AT LEAST A WEEK.
 
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