Financial problems: a reason to divorce?

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Ricky

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I lost my job three months ago and just got a new job that pays even more... but the financial stress had already done too much damage to my relationship... financial stress mixed with a couple other things have made me not want to be married, not want to be with my wife, and it's made me want to completely start a new life. But I'm so confused and have so many mixed feelings about what I'm doing, I just want someone else's opinion. I know I love her, but she doesn't help make money and we NEED 2 jobs to survive in this day and age. I don't know what I'm doing. PLEASE help me.
 
marriage counseliing to understand her goals and ideas about marriage. if you had done this before marriage it would be called premarital counseling.

you need boundaries and goals and to make your expectations known.
 
Yup you sound like my husband says he makes all the money and he wants me to work thing is i have a newborn and parents who think that i shouldn't work. You know marriage is never said to have been easy if you really love her you'll stick through this. Ask her why she doesn't want to work if its something that has to do with a case of her being lazy get rid of anything she's wasint money on sell her car phone etc she doesn't need it and you need moeny. Cut down on things you dont need explain to her have patience money comes and goes it doesn't make you happy even if you have a lot. Thats what my husband needs to understand money is just paper.
 
Lots of women are very selfish these days when they claim to want to stay home with the kids. If the husband can support the family with no problems, then fine, if not then she needs to work. Talk to your wife, which you probably already have, and if she won't go to work, you need to get a divorce and find a respectable women.
 
Ricky I just answered your other question. I really believe that you and your wife might could benefit from some marriage counseling, maybe from a man of God or a regular counselor. People need to take time to know each other and decide what they both want out of a marriage before they get into it and they don't usually do it. This is the reason that I believe marriage counceling should be made mandatory before marriage. You see Ricky, in a marriage the hard times always will come, and when people are in love they just can't see it. Marriage is not a game. So Ricky you and your wife have come to the hard times. Now are you 2 going to be strong enough to stick it out. I don't know what your financial situation is. But could it be that you both are trying to live to high. See, maybe someone who can know a whole lot more about you and your wife than we know, can enlighten you both, and maybe help.
 
In this day and age(gosh we sound old) two incomes are REQUIRED to be financially stable now days. Financial trouble definately causes problems with any relationship. Make sure whatever decision you make is well thought out.
 
Well first of all, if you got divorced now, could you afford it?! I know that sounds weird, but its something you gotta think about. When you guys got together did she have a job? or lose that as well? remember it isn't easy finding a job in this economy. Did you agree to support her? cause if you did, it might be difficult to get her to find a job now. If it really has gotten to the point where you can't deal with the situation b/c of finances, well you are entitled to be happy. I know to some people breaking up can be kind of shallow, but we live in a world where money is critical, and if the person you are with mismanages, is in great debt, and doesnt do anything about it, why should you bear the brunt of it?! good luck!
 
You don't NEED two jobs to survive "in this day and age"
What a crock.
You ever see that family of six who makes 30,000, owns two cars, a home, has kids in college and has no debt?
You're not enough of a man to sacrifice like that, apparently. So your wife can't treat you like a man, hence your unhappiness.
 
shoot money comes and money goes ...
bills get high .......and then you catch up..
if i ran every time money got tight ..I would never catch my breath ..

make same payments every paycheck to the bills ....and when you pay off the lowest bill .take that money and put it onto the next lowest bill to pay that off ....faster ..

but .........take a date night once a month ....reconnect ....you both had to tighten up the belts ..now ........time to relax a little and remember why you married her
 
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