Females: Have you ever had sex with a guy only to regret it later? A question for

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sexually active women? I met this guy back in October and we got along very
well and ended up having sexual intercourse. He was
very nice and thoughtful, even after this happened, but we
ended up getting into a fight over something and have not seen eachother since.

We have talked since then though, on several occassions
and i tried to apologize and mend our issues and move on,
not with him but on my own. I just wanted some closure.

Now i really, really regret having sex with him.

I wish i could time travel and undo this.
 
I think everyone has had sex with someone they regret. But don't dwell on it, live and learn from your mistakes. Remember your body is precious, so treat it as your would treat your most expensive Jewerly, with so much pride and care. You wouldn't lend out something to someone that is really valuable, think as your body in that way.

There will be more you regret too......
At least I have a couple in my young days.
 
I been there and done that. The best thing you can do is just move on. Stop beating yourself up about this because, no...you can't go back and change it. So just take this as a lesson learned. Next!!! Lol!
 
In all honesty, no, I have had dates that I regretted going on and I have been in relationships that I regretted having, but I have never regretted having sex with anyone. I understand that I am far from the norm in that area.

I have had a couple of close calls and thought thought better of it and didn't have sex with someone and later was thanking my lucky stars that I dodged that bullet.

It's alright to make mistakes. You didn't do anything bad or wrong. You either just had a lapse in judgement where your hormones ran faster than your head or you misjudged someone or the situation. All you can do is learn from your mistake and attempt to not repeat it.

as for "closure": that is an over used psychobabble term that people misuse and misunderstand. Think about what it is that you meant by closure and be honest with yourself about what it was that you wanted from him. Given what you know about him, is what you wanted a realistic or even a reasonable goal?

Since you don't feel like you got what you wanted from him then I'd have to say what you wanted wasn't realistic. In that case, your closure then comes from acknowledging the person and the situation as it really is rather than how you wished it were and then by releasing your regrets. Your closure is now about you forgiving yourself for not being perfect and allowing yourself to be human and make mistakes.

It's alright to make mistakes. Don't beat yourself up over it.

and I'm not dead yet, so I could still regret having sex with someone one day.
 
i dont believe in regret. you wanted it at the time. theres no point of stressing about it now. you can change it. just forget about it. its really not a big deal.
 
yes! when i broke up with my ex i was so upset i slept with some i worked with......such a big mistake.. i never do anything like this so it was totally un normal of me!
 
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