CandyxAcid
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I am fifteen and my best friend just lost her virginity to a guy that she barely knew! She was very happy and excited about it, so I went along with it because there's no need to bring her down if she has made her decision.. it's her choice, I just wanted to know if she used protection.
But this is definitely NOT how I picture my first time. Or my any time. I don't want to just randomly meet a guy, get drunk, and then just do it! I would actually like to be in a relationship with him... It seems gross to me to even envision myself doing something like that with someone I just met. I want it to be at least a little bit meaningful!
But she is kind of indirectly pressuring me to have sex too.. she keeps talking about it (I know she's excited, so that's okay) and all my other girlfriends are like "Oh I'm so jealous.. you should hook me up this weekend with one of your guy friends and I can do it too!" And she keeps offering to have her hook me up with a guy... and I don't know.
It sounds stupid. Like I should just be able to say, "No thanks."
But I don't want to offend her and I don't want to be the odd one out.. Argh. It's so hard to deal with. I just don't want to be "that girl" And I don't know how to tell her that without offending her or seeming like a wuss.
Can someone please tell me how I can deal with situation in a way that's not too prissy or offensive or whatever. I know she's a good friend and she would respect my decision.. it's not like I should just stop being friends with her because of that. I don't think she realizes how I feel about it and I want to be able to communicate that without pissing her off.
Please help =(
But this is definitely NOT how I picture my first time. Or my any time. I don't want to just randomly meet a guy, get drunk, and then just do it! I would actually like to be in a relationship with him... It seems gross to me to even envision myself doing something like that with someone I just met. I want it to be at least a little bit meaningful!
But she is kind of indirectly pressuring me to have sex too.. she keeps talking about it (I know she's excited, so that's okay) and all my other girlfriends are like "Oh I'm so jealous.. you should hook me up this weekend with one of your guy friends and I can do it too!" And she keeps offering to have her hook me up with a guy... and I don't know.
It sounds stupid. Like I should just be able to say, "No thanks."
But I don't want to offend her and I don't want to be the odd one out.. Argh. It's so hard to deal with. I just don't want to be "that girl" And I don't know how to tell her that without offending her or seeming like a wuss.
Can someone please tell me how I can deal with situation in a way that's not too prissy or offensive or whatever. I know she's a good friend and she would respect my decision.. it's not like I should just stop being friends with her because of that. I don't think she realizes how I feel about it and I want to be able to communicate that without pissing her off.
Please help =(