February, 29

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Ok i know my B-day doesnt happen this year that besides the point. So my daughter wanted to get me something for my B-day and I just simply told her to just give me a hug and kiss good morning. Well now she wakes me up every morning when she gets up. (at like 5:30 - 6:00 am) Well I work and take care of her on my own so I'm always tired. But I dint want to get my but out of bed that early normally she watches tv until I get up about 8 or 9 unless its a school day then I take her to school and then sleep a bit not that much longer of a sleep but its well needed. Well she does this cuz my B-day isnt this year technically so she wakes me up every day just to make sure she get the right one until March, 1st I dint wanna tell her to stop cuz I told her to, kinda, but she is to young to get it and I dint want to have her think I said one think and then changed my mind. So I decided to take in my Lil cuz for 2 or 3 days shes 6 just so they can have some fun (daughter is 3 almost 4 but mature for her age) I figured they have fun and she would get tired out a bit. Well now there waken me up even earlier until she heads home. I end up popin in a movie and just fallen asleep as they watch it and then wake up a before its over to them still watchin it. I enjoy my life I wouldnt have of traded her for her mom for a minute. But its hard as hell to do all that she in this Pre K/daycare thing. That damn thing cost more than the cable bill I should just stick her in front of that and go to work. But what should I do I'm cant keep getting less and less sleep everyday and I cant tell her not to do that.
 
Well, can you suggest she waits to wake you up until the sun comes up? Or, if she's old enough and knows her numbers tell her to wake you up when the number on a digital clock says 7:00 or 8:00. Don't tell her not to wake you up, just figure out a way for her to wake you up a bit later. Perhaps there's a show she always watches? When that's over she can wake you up.
 
Well I never thought of that I just get up Im always up. Thats what I'll do I'll tell her to wake me up after she watches caillou. She loves that show and it ends at like 8:30 that will work. As for you Zickddot not a bad idea for that damn noisy as hell girl down the hall she is always just walkin into my house. One day I should try that on her. Well UberSkippy I think you could help me out a bit more than Zickddot, given his last statement. Now I hope none of you have to go through this yourselves, but see when Samantha (my lil girl) was born it was the sadest, and happiest day of my life I lost my fiance and gained a child that looks like her in sooo many ways. Well she always askes me where her mom is and I just tell her that shes not here no more and she will ask why and I dont wanna tell her there was trouble at her birth. Because I dont want her to think one bit that its her fault of I would trade her for her mom back anyday. So what age should I tell her what really happend I just tell her I dont know why and end it at that. Sorry kinda fell into the whole thing and tryin to get all kinks out. Best place to do it is on a forum like this. lol Yea!!
 
Well, I don't have kids but I was adopted by my father. My bio-dad wanted nothing to do with me at all. He signed away his parental rights before I was born. I guess my folks were afraid of telling me all of the story until I got older but I always knew I was adopted. I mean I can't think of a time when I didn't know. There was never a moment when my folks sat me down and said "You were adopted."

However, it wasn't until later in my life that I became aware of the whole story. I guess the best advice there is to tell her when you think she can handle it.

I wouldn't ever lie to her about it because that's the kind of truth that eventually comes out and the ramifications would be nasty. I figure honesty is the best policy, just don't go overboard and tell her the whole thing.

Are her mom's parents still involved in her life? I'd think when she does finally know the whole thing that relationship might become important to her.
 
Sadly no they hated me cuz I got her pregnant and they seen it as my fault for her death all she has is my parents and me, well and her aunts and friends but mainly me and my parents but they have less money than I so im kinda screwed bothway in the ass on this one. Oh and as for me liein to her I dont lie and tell her she is on vacation or anythink I say I dont know cuz I dont want her to worry about why or blame herself, thats all
 
As for the lieing, I know you aren't lieing now, I just wouldn't start in the future. You know say she was hurt in a car accident and died after your daughter was born or something.

It's too bad her grandparents aren't involved. Maybe you could reconsile for her sake? Or not. Just a thought there.

I dont think any of this has to be about money. Just her mental well being. She sounds like a sweet kid that came into the world in a tough way. It's good that you're trying to protect her from it, just know that at some point she'll have to deal with it on her own. When that time comes, make sure she understands that you don't blame her or anything like that.
 
I have tried to get her parents involved I have even straight up asked them for her sake can you just pop over once in awhile or call and talk to her and it was a slam on the reciver so I dont think im goin anywere there I dont give up though. As for the whole liein thing I knew what you meant and didnt take it to offense I understood it well. I just hate to tell her what happend but she is really smart for her age but what parent dont say that. I just want her to start off on a better foot than I and it dont look to hot at this point.
 
Thats Awesome W.T. Even though you're not getting sleep You're getting the best years of being a parent here and now.

You have a good kid there. Brite side, only a week to go. But you can do what was suggested before and tell her to wait until the clock says 7am. it will help her read time. start with the digi clock and then the analog.

I miss my kids being that age. Except the poopy part.
 
Lol yea the getting woke up at like 3 am to be told I shit myself makes me wanna be the worst father and go you know where the diapers are have at it. I do agree there youth is the best years of being a parent. I still love how they know when your down and give ya a hug just cuz they know you need one wont listen why but it dont matter at that point. God I love kids there the most beautiful thing in the world, and I wouldnt have it any other way:)
 
Exactly how I feel. For a while I missed being single when the wife was too busy with the kids. but then, I realized I would never go back to that single life again. At least not on purpose. My kids fill the void that existed
 
Okay, that's just rude and insensitive. Grow up!
W.T., what you're doing for that girl is admirable. I agree with Uber about having her wake you up later.
 
Lol Ill agree with that one but a bit of help now and again would be great. But no luck for now mybe in time. I do love how it does just kinda make everything seem right for just one small second and thats on your like worst day of hell. On a normal day they just can make you love what little you have. Go kids
 
I thought I would thank you guys for the great advice she now waits till her show is done and all and she just kinda hangs out and plays kinda quite now, but she was always the polite one. Anyway I just thought I would tell yall that she is doin great and Im getting a bit more sleep here and there. So thanks again guys and girls.
 
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