Family guest list dilemma - Father of the Groom?

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I have this major dilemma with our guest list regarding my future father in law. My partner’s dad left my partner and his mom when he was around 10. He was physically abusive to my partner’s mom. my partners has had very little contact with his father since I have known him (10years) and when they have spoken over the phone my partner always ends up really angry and depressed for days. because of this effect on my partner I vowed I never wanted to met his father. My partner seems to feel he needs to have some sort of relationship with hi father despite this. He was given a second chance at his partner’s grandmother funeral in which my partner, his mom and dad all attended and to keep a long story short the police were called, after an argument started. so to the question, his mom has asked for him not to be invited, I don’t want him to be invited but my partner is unsure still + he wants to invite some of his dad sisters, who he gets along with fine. He is worried inviting his dads sister but not his dad would be weird. I really don’t want to have that kind of negative energy or worry at my wedding, but have given him the last say. What you do in this situation?
 
I think That this is his choice!
it is his father, his family and really if he wants his father at the wedding then he should be there.
I would sit down with him and explain the reasons why you don't want his father there, but let it be his choice. maybe see if he can come up with reasons to have his father at the wedding other then that it is his father, and other then if he is not invited it would make his father mad.

Sorry this is all I can tell you....
I have similar situation for our wedding, different in a way but still a lot to deal with.
 
You're partners dad is not a father, he's a sperm donor. A father has a definition and he doesn't meet that. He doesn't need to be invited as he has no relationship to your son. Your partner should know it would cause a lot of problems that you shouldn't have on the happiest day of your life. You will really regret it if you invite his father. Sometimes, the cords just need to be cut. He can invite his sisters because he considers them family. A man who is abusive to his child is not family :(
 
Which would be weirder: Having your partner's aunts attend the wedding and having a lovely time OR having your partner's dad attend the wedding and having the cops show up again? OR having bouncers at your wedding ready to step in... not exactly what you want at a wedding.

There's a time and a place to try and heal relationships and it's great that your fiance is still willing to try in spite of everything BUT your wedding is not the place for it. Not for such a huge rift that your fiance has with his dad. Rather suggest to your partner that he thinks about inviting the aunts and let that be his decision. Tell him whether you think it would be weird or not, be honest.

But also tell him that you'd rather not have his father there because of the negative energy and potential for disaster. Remind him of his grandmother's funeral. You can also suggest that after the wedding the two of you meet up with his dad and take him out for lunch or something.

Good luck.
 
You have to agree to whatever your fiance says. It's his father and his wedding too. Even though you may only see the negative, your fiance may see somethin different and wants to hold on to that. Don't try to pressure him. Don't suggest anything. Let him decided. If his mother and father can't sit a part for a few hours then they need to grow up.
 
You're partners dad is not a father, he's a sperm donor. A father has a definition and he doesn't meet that. He doesn't need to be invited as he has no relationship to your son. Your partner should know it would cause a lot of problems that you shouldn't have on the happiest day of your life. You will really regret it if you invite his father. Sometimes, the cords just need to be cut. He can invite his sisters because he considers them family. A man who is abusive to his child is not family :(
 
You're partners dad is not a father, he's a sperm donor. A father has a definition and he doesn't meet that. He doesn't need to be invited as he has no relationship to your son. Your partner should know it would cause a lot of problems that you shouldn't have on the happiest day of your life. You will really regret it if you invite his father. Sometimes, the cords just need to be cut. He can invite his sisters because he considers them family. A man who is abusive to his child is not family :(
 
I would invite the fathers sisters, if they aren't the ones who make him feel miserable. Follow his mother's wishes and not invite him. I am sure you two would not want your day ruined by the police having to show up.
 
I would invite the fathers sisters, if they aren't the ones who make him feel miserable. Follow his mother's wishes and not invite him. I am sure you two would not want your day ruined by the police having to show up.
 
I would invite the fathers sisters, if they aren't the ones who make him feel miserable. Follow his mother's wishes and not invite him. I am sure you two would not want your day ruined by the police having to show up.
 
I would invite the fathers sisters, if they aren't the ones who make him feel miserable. Follow his mother's wishes and not invite him. I am sure you two would not want your day ruined by the police having to show up.
 
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