Family Drama... Am I out of line?
My parents divorced when my sister and I were young. I lived with my mom and sister. My sister and I never got along, no matter how hard I tried to be nice, she always seemed so negative towards me. My mother was emotionally abusive to me growing up, and now she does it to my kids even though she's apologized, I still can't forget some of the things she said. I spent years in counseling because I felt so belittled. I'm a big girl now, but we occasionally see each other at family gatherings at Christmas and so forth.
I'm 43 now with 3 children. After becoming an adult, I my dad and I developed a great relationship. We spend a lot of time together and with my kids. My rich sister never wanted anything to do with him while she maintained a close relationship with my mom.
My dad is now updating his will and wants me to be executor and wants me to have his house, but only leaving my sister $15k since they hardly know each other. He plans to visit her next week, and I'm afraid she'll try to "brown-nose" him since my dad is so nice, he'll end up giving her half of his estate.
On the other hand, my mother and my sister have a close relationship. My mother told me a long time ago when she dies she's giving me $1. I believed her. But then my sister told me that she's giving me an equal share with my sister and step-sisters. I never heard anything of this, it was a big surprise. Well, my sister ended up hanging up on me. I wont call her back, because if I did she'll just belittle me. Perhaps I shouldn't have asked her not to "brown-nose" my dad, but she always gets whatever she wants. (btw: My dad is sort of poor. my sister and mother are pretty wealthy, but I sort of dont want anything that reminds me of my mom even though she has very nice things.) Any suggestions?
My parents divorced when my sister and I were young. I lived with my mom and sister. My sister and I never got along, no matter how hard I tried to be nice, she always seemed so negative towards me. My mother was emotionally abusive to me growing up, and now she does it to my kids even though she's apologized, I still can't forget some of the things she said. I spent years in counseling because I felt so belittled. I'm a big girl now, but we occasionally see each other at family gatherings at Christmas and so forth.
I'm 43 now with 3 children. After becoming an adult, I my dad and I developed a great relationship. We spend a lot of time together and with my kids. My rich sister never wanted anything to do with him while she maintained a close relationship with my mom.
My dad is now updating his will and wants me to be executor and wants me to have his house, but only leaving my sister $15k since they hardly know each other. He plans to visit her next week, and I'm afraid she'll try to "brown-nose" him since my dad is so nice, he'll end up giving her half of his estate.
On the other hand, my mother and my sister have a close relationship. My mother told me a long time ago when she dies she's giving me $1. I believed her. But then my sister told me that she's giving me an equal share with my sister and step-sisters. I never heard anything of this, it was a big surprise. Well, my sister ended up hanging up on me. I wont call her back, because if I did she'll just belittle me. Perhaps I shouldn't have asked her not to "brown-nose" my dad, but she always gets whatever she wants. (btw: My dad is sort of poor. my sister and mother are pretty wealthy, but I sort of dont want anything that reminds me of my mom even though she has very nice things.) Any suggestions?