Ex's as friends in gay culture?

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mer321

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So I am bisexual, and fairly new to living in the gay culture. I've noticed that many of my lesbian friends have dating one another, but have remained friends afterwards. From my personal experience, I have not been able to stay good friends with anyone I've dated, male or female. It's too hard to deal with those feelings and still having to see that person day in and day out after the breakup, and also it gets very messy to have an ex around when someone new enters the picture. But my lesbian friends tell me that in the lesbian community you pretty much have to stay friends because the community is so small? Is that true everywhere or maybe just where I live?
 
I think it's a little of both: it depends on the person and the area in which you live. It could be that in smaller areas with less of an open gay community, people are more likely to not burn their bridges because there is less of a pool from which to choose. Though, in that same vein, I know a LOT of gays and lesbians that would never stay friends with an ex.

However, I think it's a pretty equal phenomenon amongst both gays and straights.
 
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