EXPLAIN THIS to me. I don't understand why the military does this.?

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I am 21, married, and have a daughter. but i CANT join the air force because my husband is in the national guard (one weekend a month).

So they say bc i am married to someone in the military i cant join, just like single mothers cant join. BUT you are allowed to be single, and dual military in the air force. (if y ou have kids once your in its ok but when you have them prior you cant get in)

Why is is that there are so many SINGLE and DUAL military families in the air force? How did they get in?? ( i know not all of them ended up like that AFTER they joined.)

SOMEONE PLEASE EXPLAIN ????
again, mustangs- i can get in bc they have a waiver i can get. ;) i just need to wait for them to start giving them out again. which i have no problem with.


MY QUESTION IS: why do they not let ppl that are married to someone in the military in when they are lots of dual military families anyways? i dont see the difference.
Billy11B- isnt that what a family care plan is for? if you dont have a family care plan when you need one (both parents getting deployed) you get kicked out.
 
To many people can't handle the initial training and being separated from the kids and they can use the family care plan to bail out.

Just like you can't join if you are diabetic but if you develop it while in the service you can stay in. Just an exampe of one of many medical conditions.
 
They either met while active duty and then married, were married before having children or got divorced while serving. . It's that simple.

Get over it..you can't get in. No point in spending time and energy being bitter.
 
In your situation they won't let you join because if you and your husband were to get deployed at the same time who would care for your child? And if you can't find decent care for your child it would be difficult for you to focus on the mission you have to do. And as the poster above said many of the single/dual status couples got married or had children while in service. It may not be fair but that's the way it goes.

You are correct about the family care plan - however with the services meeting all of their recruiting goals they have tightened up recruiting and instead of accepting people with your situation they are more focused on single enlistees. I am sure at some level they have done the math and found that as a whole they are less likely to have issues with single non-parents than with singles enlistees. Again not entirely fair but life rarely is. Good luck to you.
 
Actually most (if not all) did end up like that after they joined. I haven't known a one that got in as Mil to Mil or single parents.
 
Well Love being a mommy: Stay that way ok GBA
How would you like it if they did let you join the military,and both you and your husband get called up to be part of Operation Freedom.
Who will take over as Love being a mommy. You will then be called GI JANE!!!.. If i was you i would find a different way to make money.
 
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